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Cheating

There's a book I've been meaning to get, and when I get the money, I'll have it. It's called Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. In an article from CNN about the book,the author Ryan puts it best, "Our bodies, minds and sexual habits all reflect a highly sexual primate. Research from primatology, anthropology, anatomy and psychology points to the same conclusion: A nonpossessive, gregarious sexuality was the human norm until the rise of agriculture and private property just 10,000 years ago, about 5 percent of anatomically modern humans' existence on Earth." He says that 95% of our evolution involved women and men sharing partners and children. Ryan talks about how back in the day, when people were hunter/gatherers that they didn't carry many possessions. People lived in little villages and helped one another. The men got food, the women cooked it and watched the children while the me

Bite my lip and close my eyes...

Masturbation--the thing that a lot of people do and a lot of people lie about doing. But it's totally natural. Even young children do it (of course, not with the means of 'finishing,' they just start playing with themselves because it feels good). And it does feel good. It releases all the same hormones that are released during orgasm with a partner, and the best part is, you don't need someone with you to do it. You don't need anything to do it, except a hand. Of course, many people prefer other things such as sex toys, lube or lotions to get them going, but it's not always necessary. Some people may feel guilty for masturbating. They might think it's a 'sinful' thing to do, or that they're 'cheating' on their partner. Well, it's not cheating. If you believe it is, that's your loss, but touching yourself when you feel turned on is not on the same level as touching someone else or someone else touching you. And as far as religio

Bi Curious?

Meredith Chivers is a researcher at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health at the University of Toronto. Chivers did some research and put it in a documentary, Bi The Way , in 2008. What kind of research did she do? She put people in a room and showed them video clips. The video clips ranged from seeing basic naked bodies doing everyday things to pornographic displays. She then measured how their genitals reacted and how aroused they were. What's interesting is the results. It turns out, straight women are not exactly 'straight.' The straight women that saw clips of naked men really didn't have any kind of arousal. However, if the women saw a clip featuring a naked woman, they became aroused. If it was a pornographic-type clip of men and women having sex, they became aroused. If they saw a clip of two women having sex, they became aroused. They also became aroused while viewing any kind of masturbatory clips. So if these are straight women, why are they getting so

"I used to have what could have been considered a high sex drive, but slowly it has gotten less and less active and now I basically have no sex drive. My boyfriend (who has an overactive sex drive himself) feels like I don't want him anymore because of this, but honestly I do it's just that I don't feel like having a lot of sex anymore. I feel like the birth control I'm on is making me feel like this, but I don't know if I want to switch what I'm on because it's been working for me other than this. What's some good ways of boosting my sex drive again?"

People have different sex drives. A 'low' one or a 'high' one is neither normal nor abnormal, unless it interferes with your relationships and/or life. It's about compromise. Make sure your boyfriend recognizes that just because you don't want sex every night, it really doesn't mean you don't want him. Some people just don't have the drive, it's as simple as that. There are many times where lack of sex has absolutely nothing to do with the feelings for the other person. But make sure that is not the case. If there is anything bothering you about him or your relationship, address it. If you don't, your sex drive will never increase (with him, at least). Now that that is out of the way, here are some things to try. One thing is to change the birth control. Different birth controls can give off different hormones and in different ways. May something that lets off a low-dose of hormones over the course of the month, such as an IUD, might help y

Kissing

One of the most famous kisses ever On an episode of That 70's Show, Fez mistakenly thinks that because Jackie told him he was funny and 'ate popcorn out of his lap,' she likes him. At the movies, he leans over and kisses her. Later, when talking to Donna, Jackie says something along the lines of, "You know how sometimes when Fez talks, he rolls his tongue? He did that in my mouth!" Which got me thinking about kissing. Why do we do it? And why is it so damn fun? In the third century A.D. the infamous Vatsyayana Kamasutra (the Kama Sutra ) came out. This was a book about the sociology of sex in India way back when, and there was a chapter about kissing. And even further back, The Old Testament speaks of kissing (such as Judas' betrayal kiss). So, we know that it has been around for practically as far back as we know of. But why do people do it? There is a question as to whether kissing in an instinct or a learned behavior. If you never saw other people ki

"I'll have what she's having."

I'm watching When Harry Met Sally . The infamous 'fake orgasm' scene just happened. It got me wondering, how many women do fake their orgasms? According to an article on Jezebel , 60% of women fake orgasms. It can be because a woman wants to make her man think he pleased her, because she just wants the act to be over, or any number of reasons. It's wrong, and women shouldn't feel they need to fake an orgasm. If your partner isn't making it happen for you, help them to get you there!!! So, what do you think? Have you ever faked?

Is there anything I can do to decrease my gag reflex for giving oral sex? Or are there techniques I can use that won't bother my gag reflex?

Yes!!! There are a few things you can do actually. I'll start with the cheapest ideas first--techniques. While giving oral, try folding your tongue up to the roof of your mouth, causing a barrier between the front of your mouth and the back of your throat. The penis will hit your tongue, feeling like it can't go in anymore, and it will create the illusion of you taking him all the way in. Same goes for your cheeks. It's not just a sexual joke when people pretend to puff out their cheeks as if to say they're blowing someone. It can be used!!! Cheeks can be stretchy, and you may be able to pull him in further into your cheeks than into your mouth. The biggest thing with blow jobs is to remember that although the focus is on your mouth on him, that doesn't mean your hands shouldn't be used. Whatever you can't take in your mouth should be in your hands. So if he's 5 inches and you can only take in 2 or 3, be twisting and yanking that bottom part of the sh

Sexiest Men in Football

So, yes, this is a blog about sex. But we shouldn't lose sight of one of the funnest thing about sex--physical attraction. And since on Sunday, most of America's mind is on football, why not look at some of the hottest players in tight spandex today?? 1. Clay Matthews Being from WI and also finding Clay to be one hot linebacker for the Green Bay Packers, he is number one on this list. How can you argue? This giant man has long luscious hair and one hot body!!! Oh yeah, he's also a pretty great player ;) (And only 25. Hey Clay, call me. ;)). 2. LaDainian Tomlinson I remember a friend of mine showing me pictures of him in high school and thinking, wow, he's good looking!!! A running back for the New York Jets, Tomlinson holds the record for the most single season touchdowns (31). 3. Reggie Bush I don't think I need to say much about the running back for the Miami Dolphins. Former boyfriend of Kim Kardashian, this player shouldn't have any bit of

Sex Drives.

As humans, we have some basic drives. One of these is a sex drive. It's a well-known 'fact' that men have higher sex drives than women. But is that true?? Turns out, yes. Men do tend to crave sex more, and not surprisingly, they will take it more casually, often, and without emotional attachment. A psychologist from Florida State University even conducted a study that showed that men get aroused more randomly throughout the day, whereas for women, a situation has to be just right for her to become turned-on. --About 66% of men say they masturbate (compared with 40% of women). This has gotta be wrong, I think that number is too low. --Men seem to have specific expectations for the things that turn them on, whereas women are more difficult to figure out (as usual). When showed pornographic videos to gauge arousal, straight men were aroused by straight porn, gay men by gay porn, lesbians by lesbian porn, but straight women seemed to be aroused by all of it!!! --Church

Lawsuit over...sex?!

A couple in Nice, France got divorced , and the woman cited her reasoning as being lack of sex in their 21 years of matrimonial 'bliss.' The husband said he was tired and had health problems, therefore not wanting to engage in sex. The judge in their divorce proceedings obviously didn't think this was a legitimate reason--he fined the now ex-husband 8,500 pounds (over $13, 600!!). The judge claims that marriage binds you to your spouse physically and by abstaining from sex, you are not fully involved in your marriage. Apparently there's a French civil code and in article 215 of that, it states that married couples have to have a "shared communal life." Even the Bible says in Ephesians 5:31 -' 31 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."' But is it fair to fine a man for abstaining?! He doesn't want it The woman is getting her divorce, and it's not like the

Surrogate Sex Partners

This is less of an educational post and more of an explanation/opinion post. A friend of mine sent me a link to this article from FoxNews about surrogate sex partners. What is it? Well, basically, when a person is in therapy for sexual/intimacy problems, a secondary form of therapy could be to have a surrogate to 'teach' the patient how to become intimate with someone else and how to have sex in a healthy way. This means a woman can learn how to relax and have an orgasm, a man can try and help his erectile dysfunction, and someone who is socially inept can learn how to be physical with someone. It's not like these people go in and just have sex with someone. These surrogates are employed by the IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association). It is a non-profit organization and it is $1,500 for the training. I'm assuming these people have background checks and STD testings. Therapists and surrogates work together to fully help the client. The therapist holds

The Gay Gene??

Author Simon LeVay has studied neuroscience and written many books. One of his books is 'Gay, Straight, and the Reason Why: The Science of Sexual Orientation."   LeVay researched what makes people gay, and he found that nature is the cause, rather than the nurture of society. He researches deeply into the characteristics of every sexual orientation, and says that there is probably not just gay, but that there are many kinds of homosexuality. I myself haven't read it, but I got an email about it. My reader says that LeVay has spoken at many PFLAG (Parents, Families&Friends of Lesbians and Gays) chapters through the years. He has also done a lot of research on the differences in the hypothalamus ' (hypothalami?) of gay men and straight men. It's worth a look at, as people continue to argue about the gay 'life-style choice' and the equality of gay rights and marriage. Thank you reader for the information!!! LeVay's Wikipedia. LeVay's Facebook

Advice

"My boyfriend and I recently started having sex. The first time, there was some pain and bleeding, which I heard was normal for the first time. But then it happened again, which I don't think is normal. We haven't done anything since then (and yes, we do use protection) but I don't know if I want to do it again if its always going to hurt. :\ Help?" Pain and bleeding is absolutely normal the first time, and many girls do. It's very common to experience light spotting and discomfort the first few times of sex, or even for a couple days after. Some girls are lucky and there is no pain the first time, but the majority of girls feel discomfort. Since you bled, it's likely your hymen had still been intact beforehand.Some girls have a thick hymen, which might not break when using tampons and things like that, and sex might have finally done that for you. Other things to consider though, are factors in the pain. Was there proper lubrication? Plenty of wom

Piercings

On request, I am posting an entry about piercings!!! Of course, there are the obvious piercings, like ear, nose, eyebrow, cartilage and other facial&bodily piercings. But not as well known or widely accepted are genital/sexual piercings. So I've compiled a list of all the sexual piercings I could find, along with a picture. Please be advised that some of the pictures are graphic, and if you do not wish to see a picture of genitals and other body parts with piercings, please do not scroll down. :) Unisex Lip Lip-- Lip piercings can be great for oral, creating an extra sensation when rubbing against your partner. They are also good for kissing, as it can be something else to play with. Tongue Tongue-- Tongue piercings are also good for play during kissing, and also great for oral. There are vibrating tongue rings that can be bought for the purpose of oral. Nipple-- Nipple piercings are bars going through the nipple. When touched, they can send waves of pleas

Advice

"My new boyfriend has a smaller penis. How can I make sex more enjoyable?" I think the first thing that's important here is how to define 'sex.' Remember that not all sex has to be vaginal intercourse. If you don't feel as much pleasure vaginally, try doing more oral, manual, or mutual masturbation. Also, it's not how big it is, it's how you use it. Focus on touching and stimulating every part of each others bodies--the sex doesn't have to be the biggest part. But there are positions that can make a guy seem long and penetrate deeper. Doggie Style-- Doggie style tends to rub against women's g-spots, since it is only a few inches in on the upper part of the vaginal canal. Because of the position (woman on all fours, head down, man in from behind), the penis will feel like it is penetrating quite deep. 'Rabbit Ears'-- Have the woman lay on her back with her legs bent up towards her head and enter from the front. The angle at which t

How do I know if I orgasmed?

Men, you should be happy. Most of the time no man will ever have to wonder this question, yet tons of women ask it every day. So for all you women out there wondering if you did, here's some hints. And if you haven't, practice makes perfect. You need to keep trying. Because sex might feel good in general, but not much beats a good orgasm. If you have said, "I don't know if I've ever had an orgasm," then you probably haven't. It's not really the kind of thing that just happens when you weren't paying attention. Before orgasm, your body starts tensing up. It will feel like every part of you is tightening. The biggest thing you need to do at this moment is let go. It may be hard to do that, and it tends to be even harder during g-spot stimulation as opposed to clitoral stimulation. This is because the sensations of the g-spot can feel like you have to urinate. You will not pee. And if you end up releasing a bunch of fluid, it is ejaculation, NOT pee

Threesome

Ever wanted a threesome? Of course you have. Every straight man wants a three some with two girls (with one girl and one guy it is commonly referred to as 'the devil's threesome'). Most straight girls would probably prefer two guys (but most straight guys are not into this). Threesomes are touchy. It's all about attention, pleasure and feelings. A lot of hesitancy about them in relationships is due to jealousy. Sex is an intimate thing, and seeing the one you love being that intimate and pleasured by someone else can hurt. But if you're going to have a threesome, you need to detach yourself from these kinds of feelings and remind yourself that it's purely about the physical act--it doesn't mean anything more. Once you decide on the person, things can get started. Set ground rules. Maybe you as a couple are the only two that can have vaginal intercourse, but the third can engage in oral or manual sex. Communication is key. It is important to check in on eve