Thursday, December 20, 2012

December 21st, 2012--The End of the Word!

If you're reading this, you have survived the end of the world! Congratulations!


'Fuck-it.'

Many of you will remember my celebrity bucket list blog post. But, since the world ends tomorrow (or is currently ending on the other side of the world), I figured why not talk about this. If the world really were ending, wouldn't you want people to know exactly what you thought about them? There's always those people we wish we could be with. That sexy barista at the coffee shop, the UPS guy, your doctor, the cute married guy with the pretty hair and three kids that comes into your work every once and awhile. Of course, there will always be beautiful famous people that we will lust after. But how about a nod to the everyday people we actually might have a chance with? Plus, there's nothing like being able to scratch that name off your list after the unthinkable happens. But, even if the world doesn't end, maybe you should go for it, take a chance, and hit that person up. What if it worked out? Wouldn't you be so happy? You never know how it will go, either!
You could wake up to this.

 Just kidding, I'd be gone before you wake up.

I know you are all used to awesome, detailed and informative blog posts but I'm just sitting on my ass eating pizza, watching the snow come down and hanging my head in the plans that I could have had but snow ruins everything. So, I'm just hanging out, thinking of The Walking Dead, just in case tomorrow turns into a zombie apocalypse. Basically, I just don't have it in me right now to write something that would be good enough to publish and promote, so instead I'm just thinking about the people on my list and wondering who's on all your lists. Maybe I'll write some erotica focusing on these people. So, tell me who is on your list. You can stay anonymous, I won't tell them (or maybe I will? ;) Comment and tell me! :)


P.S. I have to say, Clay Matthews shouldn't count as a celebrity in this case. I think it's entirely possible that him and I could meet and hang out. Also, Clay, if you see this, email me. :)

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Holiday Gift Giving Guide--X-Rated (NSFW)

Special thanks to the guy I was talking to on a website who gave me the idea for this post. I hope you enjoy it! :) Thanks again!!!

So, it's that time again, to spend all our hard-earned money on things we don't need and will probably not use much. That's not how it should be! Looking to give the gift that keeps on giving? How about some sex toys? People tend to think that if they're in a relationship, they have no need for things you can use independently, like vibrators and such. But it's healthy to have solo time, even in a relationship, and sex toys are a great way to spice up your relationship. Especially if you've never bought anything before, you might be wondering where to start. I'm going to list some of the year's popular sex toys, with links on where to get them. These are great gifts for yourself, a partner, or a friend (depending on how close you are). And if you are in a relationship, it's probably a gift for the both of you! Why not spend your money on something like that? Have fun!

Under Amazon Best Sellers, they have a section of sex toys! There are 100 pages, so I'm just going to choose a few from the first couple.



LELO Luna Beads for Kegel exercises. Amazon has them listed for $42.99 with free shipping. But can you put a price on a stronger orgasm? Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can give you more intense orgasms, as well as better control of your body. And what guy (or girl!) doesn't want their ladies to have better orgasms?! She may have you to thank for them!!




Hitachi Magic Wand Massager! This handy 'lil thing is quite the superstar in a number of amateur porn clips. It has a rating of 4 stars from 1,500 people on Amazon. It will bring you to a body-jerking orgasm that will have you crying out 'Thank you!' to the one who gave it to you. You can actually find similar 'wand massagers' at drug stores around the country, and maybe find it cheaper than the $46.40 price listed on Amazon--prime eligible. But, if you read the reviews, the money might be worth it.




Trinity Deluxe Rabbit Vibrator is awesome, but really, any kind of vibrator will do. I chose this one because it has a lot of cool functions to it. Not only is it a penetrable vibrator, but it also has rotating massaging beads near the base, and vibrating 'rabbit ears' for clitoral stimulation. That's like three gifts in one! And it's really not that expensive at $25.28, and prime eligible!! If you Amazon search/google 'rabbit vibrators,' you can find cheap ones all over!



Fleshlight! Popular funny man Kevin Smith promotes this company up and down, which is how I first heard about it. This pink lady right here will take over as your man's new woman. Why should girls get all the fun? Lots of reviews praise it's 'realistic' feeling and it's tightness. It has a cap you can loosen or tighten, depending on how you like it. It's a nice break from your hand. The 'Classic Pink Lady' Fleshlight is only $48.95 right now, on sale from $64.95 on the Fleshlight website!!


Super Head Honcho Masturbator! I found this one on Adam&Eve, with reviews all over proclaiming it 'The Sex Toy of the Year!' by Sue Johanson, from her show Talk Sex.  You can't ignore that! Apparently, it feels just like a real blowjob, and the material even makes your penis appear large. Your guy will love you for this! And on Adam&Eve, it's only $29.95! There is also a vibrating super head honcho for $34.95!!



G-Gasm Delight G-Spot Vibrator--one more for the men. Come on guys, let's get over the taboo of 'butt' toys and move on to the awesome feelings you could be having from your own g-spot! Stimulate your prostate with the 1.5'' bulbed head, or use it on your partner to stimulate theirs, or their clits or female g-spot. And it's a vibrator, so turn on any of the low to high settings to make it even more pleasurable. This toy is one to share, and for $14.96 (on sale from $19.95), you can't really even afford not to.

Now, with any toy you get, you're going to want some kind of lubricant. Lube always makes everything better. Always. Personally, I always go with water-based. They are safe for toys and condoms (silicone-based lubes can deteriorate some materials, wearing down your toys or causing your condoms to break). So, stop hacking up your spit and grab some of these great selections...






Astroglide Lubricants. Astroglide is, in my own opinion, the best lube out there, especially the natural kind. It is water-based and doesn't have any hormones, flavors, scents, alcohol, glycerin and paraben (the last few which typically cause discomfort or can negatively affect sensitive skin). What could be better? It's silky and not sticky, making clean-up a lot easier. You can typically find it in any drugstore, for around $10. Also, free samples from the Astroglide site! :)



ONEcondoms Oasis Silk. Oasis Silk is the newest personal lubricant from ONE. It is a hybrid lube that offers the advantages of both silicone and water based lubes. It is compatible with silicone toys, as well as latex AND polyisoprene condoms. It is hormone, oil, paraben, gluten, DEA, PEG, dye and fragrance free. Try out either the 2 oz. travel size for $6.95 or the 8 oz. pump bottle for $18.95. Right now, it is only available for purchase in the U.S.




Comfortably Numb Deep Throat Spray. This stuff is a great tool for the guy that loves blow jobs and the woman with a bad gag reflex. It has a numbing agent (I can't find ingredients, but it's probably lidocaine) in it, so when you spray it into the back of your throat, it numbs it so your gag reflex isn't as strong. You likely will be able to take him in further than you could before. And it tastes like spearmint! It's also $7.95, so, not bad.



Nipple Nibblers! This stuff is fun. It's a tasty moisturizer for your nipples (or really anywhere, but they come in tiny little jars, so nipples are easiest). Not only will it keep your nips from chafing, they will be tingly & taste delicious during foreplay time (which will occur before any sexual activity. You hear me, boys?). The jar is small enough that you can carry it around with you and be totally inconspicuous. It's $7.95 for a 2 oz. jar from Adam&Eve, but smaller jars are typically found in adult video stores all around!


 Like A Virgin Tightening Cream. BE CAREFUL with this one. This is something a woman should preferably get for her partner to enjoy, rather than the other way around. You don't want to send the wrong message. A little spot of this in the vaginal canal will make you feel tighter for up to 24 hours, and it will make your guy feel bigger in exchange. At $19 for .5 oz from Pure Romance, it's fairly expensive, but since you use such a little bit at a time, it should last you awhile.



Make Me Cum. This clit sensitizer 'increases sensitivity for stronger orgasms.' It is $9.95 for a .5 oz. jar. You only need to apply a very small amount of this cream to your clitoral area about 10-15 mins. before sex to increase the sensitivity to the area. Try it out!! 

And since 50 Shades of Grey opened the door to all kinds of people trying out BDSM type things...



Sexy Slave Kit--For all you housewives who read about Christian Grey and think you want to be more kinky, start out here. With a blindfold, feather tickler, wrist and ankle restraints, you can comfortably experiment all you want. And for $26.95, it's not a bad endeavor.




First Time Fetish Nipple Teasers Interested in the more painful side of BDSM? How about some nipple clamps? Push the fine line between pain & pleasure with these beginner 2 1/4 in. rubber-tipped clamps with a 12'' metal chain. The chain and clamps are made of nickel-free iron. Only $19.95.

A&E's Scarlet Satisfying Sting Crop. If you are interested in these kinds of things, any crop from any sex shop or porn store will do. This one is currently on sale on Adam&Eve for $22.46, normally $29.95. Also, feel free to try whips and canes as well, if you like the pain.


Fantasy Door Swing. If you like being restrained and having passionate, hot sex against a wall, this is the toy for you. It's portable, doesn't require any drilling, and can hold up to 300 pounds. Throw it over the door and go at it! It's only $49.95!!!

Sportsheets Doggie Strap. I have loved the idea of this since the first time I saw one at a boutique. What a great idea! Guys always want that specific angle, and giving them the reins allows them to get at it, giving you the best g-spot angle. It's padded, so it is more comfortable on your stomach, and it even has a spot to stick a vibrator in, so your clitoris can be stimulated at the same time. This product is awesome, and it's only $21.95. This is probably on the top of my list of best gifts of everything I've seen this year.


Afterglow Natural Massage Oil Candle. An all-natural candle that heats up the massaging wax in its porcelain holder to the perfect temperature, allowing you to be able to pour it on your lover's skin and then massage it into them? Sounds perfect! Hot wax play and intimate massages in one. The smell will turn you on, and so will all the touching. It comes in two different scents--pink orchard and fresh cucumber. It burns as a candle for 32 hours. You can find these awesome massage candles anywhere, but on Adam&Eve, you can find this 4.5 oz. one for $29.95.


Liberator Furniture. Honestly, anything from Liberator's website is going to be a great gift. They have wedges that can double as inconspicuous seats in your home outside of the bedroom. They have normal wedges/ramps and other more curvy one, helping you to get into the perfect position to help you reach that amazing O, while feeling great to your partner. Some of them even have spots where you can stick a vibrator in and use it solo! They even have lounges, benches and foam beds! They can get pretty pricey, but they're totally awesome. Check them out. This particular wedge in the picture is the Liberator Flip-Ramp, and it is normally $170, currently on sale for $159. Like I said, expensive, but these can be used in and out of the bedroom, and they are made to please--and to last ;).



New Comers Strap-On and Dildo Set. Need some penetration in your lives? Try this strap-on. The harness can fit up to 60 in. waists, and the purple dildo is 4 in. long and .75 in. wide. The harness can hold other dildos up to 1.25'' in diameter and is machine-washable. It even includes a free lube sample!! At $39.95, it is a best seller on Adam&Eve.

Smoothie 18'' Double Dong. Spice up your scissoring with this jelly-like dildo! This light purple 18 in. long, 1.5 in. wide flexible toy is compatible with water-based lube. Use soap or other toy cleaners to keep clean after each use. It is double-ended for twice the fun. This is also a best seller on Adam&Eve, for $19.95.



Anti-bacterial Toy Cleanser. For $5.95, a 4 oz. bottle of cleanser will keep your toys clean and sanitary. It is on Amazon, and unfortunately it isn't prime eligible, but it does have free shipping.

New one here--check out anything from ONEcondoms!! There are packs of condoms and lubes and bundles. Check out the glow-in-the-dark condoms for an extra fun gift ;).



As always, lingerie is always great. Make sure you get the right size, or know the return/exchange policies if you can't for some reason get a size, or if it doesn't end up fitting.

Now, it should go without saying that playing it safe is necessary! Make sure to stock up on condoms (latex, polyisoprene, lambskin, anything that works for you), or other protections (birth control pills, dental dams, contraceptive sponges, contraceptive films, spermicides, regular STI testings, etc.). Make sure toys are cleaned properly and fully after every use, and double check before each use.

Remember, these are only a few products that I chose to put in here. There are TONS of toys, accessories, clothes, lubes, oils, lotions, creams, furniture, etc. that you can experiment with.
From the HuffingtonPost Canada--"With global sales of 'pleasure goods' rising towards 400 million, according to a study entitled "Women, Sex and Shopping," they're quickly catching up to mobile phone sales."
Wow! People buy and use these things more than you might think. It's time to make it more acceptable to talk about and buy for each other. In 2001 (which, keep in mind, was 15 years ago), the Canadian CBC Marketplace estimated that about $500 million of sales in North America are from sex toys and other related sexual products. Awesome!

Check out some of the links, search around on the websites and see if you can find something you like. It's the gift for one or two (or more!) that keeps on giving, especially if you use them right ;). A lot of websites have some great sales going on right now.

If you have a toy that you really like, tell us about it in the comments, what it is, why you like it, how you use it, etc.

Thanks everyone. Make sure to make time to sneak off for some one-on-one action while staying with relatives this month, or at least have someone watch the kids for awhile! Make it a goal to perfect the art of quickies. Merry Christmas, Happy Hannukah, and Happy Holidays!

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Date Rape Drugs.

This post won't be too long because there's not a whole ton I can say about it. I was reading an article in Cosmopolitan about date rape drugs. And as I was reading the symptoms. I have to say, I was pretty concerned. I'm not saying I've been slipped the drugs, but I've had a similar experience to some of the girls in the article. A lot of girls don't realize they've been slipped anything, because the symptoms are similar to those of being drunk, and lots of times, predators will slip them into the second or third drink so that you don't question the way you're feeling.

There are a couple different drugs commonly used to sedate in drinks. While it occurs mostly to women, it can happen to men, too. The bottom line is always watch  your drink. Watch the bartender make it. Watch them bring it to you. Don't accept drinks from strangers and don't ever leave your drink unattended. Slipping something in can take seconds, and you might not even notice it. It might be someone you're with, it could be a stranger, or it could even be the bartender. Be wary of

Rohypnol is the most common, otherwise known as ruffies. GHB and Ketamine are also commonly used. The last two are even easier to administer into an unaware person's drink because they come in liquid form as well as a powder. All three come in pill form, which can disintegrate into a drink. Sometimes, the color of the drink can change and look blueish or cloudy, but it's hard to tell in a drink or in a dark bar. Most people wouldn't question it. And the scariest part is, the pills are available dye-free, meaning there would be deciphering a safe drink from a dangerous one.

Symptoms from Rohypnol:


--Confusion
--Drowsiness
--Impaired judgment and motor skills, essentially like being drunk
--Memory loss
--Dizziness
--Nausea
--Slurred speech
--Blackouts/passing out
 Symptoms usually present themselves within a half an hour and can last for hours.

Symptoms from GHB:










--Drowsiness
--Impaired judgment and motor skills, essentially like being drunk
--Memory loss
--Dizziness
--Nausea
--Difficulty breathing
--Sweating
--Vomiting
--Seizures
--Blacking out
--Dream-like feeling
 Symptoms usually present themselves within 15 minutes and only last a few hours.

Symptoms from Ketamine:













--Slurred speech
--Difficulty breathing
--Vomiting
--Impaired judgment and motor skills, essentially like being drunk
--Convulsions
--Loss of coordination
--Numbness
--Aggressive behavior
--Blacking out
--Inability to move while still being mentally aware
--Dream-like feeling
Symptoms are almost immediate.

Rohypnol is not legal, but it is a benzodiazepine, which is a relaxant. It's typically used for treating anxiety and sleep disorders. It's very similar to Klonopin and Xanax, which are legal, and very widely prescribed. When taken in prescribed, low doses, these drugs can be safe and helpful. But when taken unknowingly and at high doses, it can make you act strangely and knock you out. Ketamine is used in medical procedures to put patients/animals to sleep, and GHB is now being used to treat narcolepsy in the US.

If you're given a drink that looks, smells or tastes funny, don't drink it. Try and have a sober friend with you (you should do this any time you're drinking, anyways). If you feel like you may have been drugged-- are very drunk after drinking very little, or if you feel the effects are intensified, and or if you just feel weird, take a break. Drink some water and get to a safe place. Call the police and explain the situation. Make sure you are with people you trust, and don't put yourself in a situation where you could easily lose control.

Victims don't always know they've been given the drug. These drugs are out of your system within 8-12 hours. If you can get to a hospital, do so. If you are in a safe place, many have slept it off. If you wake up in an unknown place or even a known place but you feel very hungover or like you may have been violated, go to the hospital and call the police. The longer you take to report a possible rape or sexual assault, the more and more evidence is gone. If you wake up in an area where you believe you may have been assaulted, don't touch anything. It is all evidence, and may be able to help law enforcement officials to piece together what happened.

Do not blame yourself. Accidents happen. The biggest thing is to focus on the present. What happened and how do I fix the situation? Do what you can after the fact. And again, be very safe when you're out drinking. Even if you aren't drinking alcohol, be aware of any beverages you may drink. One really cool invention that can help is a coaster from Drink Safe Technology. These coasters have spots that chemically react when a date-rape drug is dripped onto it. The spot will change colors to tell you if your drink is safe or if it has been tampered with. Of course, there can be false positives. But it is better to be safe than sorry. You can purchase the coasters from their website for about $0.40 a piece.

So, be safe, and happy drinking!

Women's Health.gov
Drug Abuse.gov
Above the Influence.
ABCNews.
Drink Safe Technology.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Current controversy: NY Schools Offering 'Morning After Pill'

I heard about this on the news, and subsequently read about it in various articles online. The biggest thing I have noticed is the ignorance surrounding it. Media outlets seems to be doing what they always do--pull the most obscure part of the story out and put it in the headline in a way that makes it sound much worse than it is. So, if you are against the program, read this and tell me if you are still against it. If you are for it, read this to gain some more insight in order to better explain to those whose opinions are against it.

First off, let's look at New York's statistics around teen pregnancy. According to the Christian Science Monitor, "More than 7,000 New York City girls ages 15 to 17 get pregnant each year. More than two-thirds of those pregnancies end in abortions." Of the girls that keep their babies, The Washington Post says that 70% drop out of school.
 
If we compare the rate of teen pregnancy in New York to those of other states, we find that New York has a significantly higher number of pregnant girls. In 2005 (the most recent collected data for this particular statistic), out of a group of 1,000 fifteen-to-seventeen year old girls, 55.7 girls got pregnant in New York compared to 40.2 for the rest of the country. In the age group of 18-19, this number is 127.7 compared with 117.7. It may not sound like much of a difference, but it is. And compared with the amount of births that ultimately come of these pregnancies, the number is much lower in New York than the rest of the country. What does this tell us? It tells us that more girls in New York are getting pregnant than other states and that even more of them are getting abortions. In fact, 64% of all teen pregnancies were aborted last year in New York.*

While the difference between New York and the rest of the country is significant as far as pregnancies go, the amount of girls getting emergency contraception is surprisingly low. This means that couples are using their brains along with other parts of their bodies. In fact, nearly 44.2% of all 11th grade teens have had sex, and of those, only 2.9% of them used emergency contraception. About 33.9% of all teens have reported having had sex, and of those, 4% have used the morning after pill. *

What does this say about teens? Now, I am just talking about New York, and not every state is completely comparable. But keep in mind that every state has percentages that are higher than people like to accept. Your teenagers are having sex. Your abstinence programs have not worked, and they will not work. What HAS worked are safe-sex programs. Don't you adults remember what being a teen is like? It was a very short time ago that I myself was one, and I can verify the validity of this--being told not to do something makes us want to do it more. So when you're told that sex is great and it's for when you're older and you shouldn't be doing it right now...why wouldn't you want to go out and do it? Kids need to be told what sex is and how to do it right. Then we need to leave it up to them to figure out. Of course we can advise them and guide them, but we need to stop telling them 'no' and start telling them 'how.' Amy Schalet, assistant professor of Sociology at the University of Massachusetts and author of, “Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex,” told Washington Post author in an email, "In the US, we’ve tended to focus exclusively on the dangers of sex. Parents, educators and health care providers warn young people against the risks of sex and heartbreak, but unfortunately that does not give them the tools to navigate the territory of sexuality and relationships in a healthy way.” She really couldn't be more accurate in my opinion. So what kinds of tools do we need to be giving them?

"As part of the mandated New York City DOE HIV/AIDS Prevention Program, all high schools are required to have a Health Resource Room (HRR) where free condoms, health information, and health referrals are available to students." --NYC Department of Education.

These HRRs must have one female and one male on staff, so that every student can feel comfortable going into the room for information and supplies. I was not able to find a start year for this Condom Availability Program, but I did find an article about the program in NY dated from September 1997.
This is not new stuff. But what is new is the decreasing rates of teen pregnancy. According to a study out of New York, in the year 2000, there were 779 pregnancies in teens aged 14 and younger. Wow! But as of 2009, there were 551. Though the numbers went down slowly, and there were the same amount in 2002 & 2003, the numbers have decreased every year in that decade. I think this means we're doing something right. And also, "A study of New York City's school condom availability program found a significant increase in condom use among sexually active students but no increase in sexual activity (AdvocatesforYouth.org)." According to the CDC, the U.S. teen birth rate reached a historic percentage in 2010. It decreased nine percent. That is the lowest the rates have been since 1946. With the increase of things like condom availability programs and the morning after pill, it's no surprise that fewer girls are getting pregnant.


If you aren't convinced thus far, let's look at a couple more things about this program, such as the safety of it. Many people are worried about the health effects of the morning after pill. If you are a woman or a man currently having sex, intending to have sex anytime in the future, or have children who will eventually have sex, please check out Plan B's website. From the random fascinating facts on the homepage to the frequently asked questions to coupons and a pharmacy locator, everyone can benefit from their website. For example...

"A woman's chances of becoming pregnant from unprotected sex are approximately 20-25% each menstrual cycle–even if it's her first time."
Click the picture for the coupon :)!

How many girls know that? Well, now you do! Do you also know that Plan B works very similarly to monthly birth control? One of the main ingredients is levonorgestrel, which is a main ingredient in most over the counter monthly birth controls. And it doesn't always work. In fact, seven out of eight girls will not get pregnant who would have gotten pregnant without the pill, which means that one in eight girls will still get pregnant. It is not fail-safe, just like any other form of contraception. It is most effective up to 72 hours after sex, but the sooner you take it, the better. Its effects can be the same as birth control, such as cramping, spotting, an early or late period, nausea, etc.


It is NOT an abortion-inducing pill. It cannot abort an existing pregnancy, nor should it be used like a monthly birth control. It is purely for emergencies (such as a broken condom or forgetting to take a monthly pill). It is a current debate as to how exactly these work, and delaying ovulation is becoming more and more accepted as what it is that they do. I'm not going to get into that, because it's a whole other thing, but if you are wondering as to the discussion as far as what it does, read this article on CBS News. Basically, if used on a need-to basis, it's just as effective and safe as a monthly hormonal birth control. If you have any doubts about it, a pharmacist will explain anything and your doctor will, too (prescriptions are needed for girls under 17).

One last thing I want to bring up, and that's the media portrayal of this situation. The media has been making this out to seem like girls are able to get this pill without permission from their parents, and that it is just being handed out. There is an 'opt-out' program, where parents can opt that their daughter not be allowed access to the pill if they asked for it. About one to two percent of parents have actually opted their child out, according to the city health department. So, you are able to be a parent to your child in that sense. You can check with your child's school to see if they have the program. Also, I haven't seen anything that says that the pill would be given free of charge. I'm pretty sure (and if anyone knows for sure, please tell me!) that the girls would still have to pay. Most girls are not going to throw away their money by doing this all the time, at about $50 per one-time use pill. Not to mention the fact that it is generally embarrassing, especially for young girls, to have to explain to an adult that they need something like this. Also, this program started about four years ago in 40 different schools in New York. This whole program is nothing new, its just that it is now becoming public. Since 2011, thirteen more schools have gained the program that didn't already have a health clinic. According to the Christian Science Monitor, "'In the 2011-12 school year, 576 girls got the pills at the 13 added schools,' said Deborah Kaplan, an assistant health commissioner."


And on a final note that could end up being something I shouldn't have even brought up, research politics if you plan on voting this election. In the September issue of Cosmopolitan, there is a table that shows what each Presidential candidate's views are on women's rights. In a very small nutshell, Obama is pro-choice and Romney is pro-life, and Romney is not a fan of Planned Parenthood. I'm not going to give any personal opinion here. I'm going to say that it is important to know what is at stake if you plan on voting. Research each candidates' views and the programs, health care plans and federal funding they plan to keep and get rid of. And PLEASE educate yourself on what Planned Parenthood really is. It is not an abortion clinic. Sen. John Kyl, R-Arizona, was quoted as saying that 90% of Planned Parenthood's care is abortions. ABCNews reports that, "Planned Parenthood is the nation's largest abortion provider, but it issued a fact sheet today stating that more than 90 percent of its
health care services are preventive, not abortions. The company says no taxpayer funds are used to fund abortions."If you hear something on tv, the radio, from a friend, or read it online, do your own work to figure out the truth behind it and your own opinions.

Overall, this program is extremely effective when used, and it isn't being used as much as you might think. Teen pregnancy rates have gone down, and more and more kids are using protection, thanks to tons of new programs that offer them free condoms, birth control, the morning after pill, and/or just information about sex itself. The morning after pill is safe and effective when used quickly and on an emergency basis. Though it is commonly known as Plan B, most pharmacies do carry a generic morning after pill (just ask your pharmacist if they do, it is usually a few dollars cheaper than name brands). And the biggest study fact that got me was the fact that these programs do not increase sexual activity in teens. Keep your eyes and ears open, folks. Kids are having sex and if you don't want to answer their questions or help them out, they'll just figure it out for themselves.

If you so choose, post your opinions as to whether or not these programs are a good idea! :)

*NYC Department of Health and Mental Hygiene
Washington Post
CDC
Christian Science Monitor
NYC Department of Education
NCBI
Advocates for Youth
Plan B
CBS News
FoxNews
Planned Parenthood
ABC News.go








Monday, September 10, 2012

The Law of Attraction!

I can't believe I haven't written about this before! Especially since it's something that fascinates me. It's the idea of attraction, that we're drawn to certain people. Have you ever been drawn to a person? Or people? Some people have very specific "types," others can pretty much fall in lust with anyone. But why do we feel attraction towards some people? And how come sometimes it's mutual, and other times it's not?




For me, there have been maybe a handful of guys in  my life that I've been sexually attracted to. I have a VERY specific type. Unless you have a certain look/body type combined with a certain personality, chances are, I'm not going to be attracted to you, even if you are a good looking and/or nice person. I can't explain it, and I've tried to change my 'type;' It just doesn't work for me. It's a lot of hair, emotional mess, bad histories with parental units, detachment to the world, and fueling the desire to be 'wanted' that does it for me, in a nutshell. (A very small nutshell, mind you). Even in a platonic sense, I've always been attracted to the 'troubled' types of people--typically ones who depend on some kind of substance to 'take them away,' and those who have had rough lives, problems with families, friends, and themselves. Throughout the years I've come to the realization that those people are using me for the things they don't have themselves--positivity, acceptance of themselves/others, strength, companionship, etc. I'm extremely open, optimistic, friendly, and even when I'm in a horrible mood, I'm fairly incapable of maintaining it. I always break down laughing. Now, I'm not trying to talk about myself here. I'm more or less reflecting on what it is people see in me. They see the positives, the optimism...so, why am I attracted to the opposite?


If you do it right, you can completely change the person you're with.*     
 *Results not typical
   



In an article in PsychologyToday, Ken Page has an interesting theory-"Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which remind us of how we were wounded the most."
Very interesting! He says that since many of us try to 'change' the people we are with, some deep desire within us leads us to find a person who we believe will hurt us in a way we were hurt in the past, so that we can successfully change them and, in a way, 'fix' that part of us that was hurt. So, for example, if you have a past in which a lot of people in your life have left, you may fall for someone who you believe will do the same, with the unconscious intention of making them stay because they love you so much. It's an internal plan that we devise in order to make ourselves happier and more fulfilled.

Dr. Helen Fischer, anthropologist and consultant for Chemistry.com says that, "[...] while couples may have similarities, they also have traits that compliment each other."
It's kind of the whole opposites-attract type thing. It makes sense, that if you are an impatient person, you might go for someone who is very patient, in an attempt to better yourself. This is why lots of time attraction isn't mutual. Sometimes, signs and factors are misread, and we think a person can give us what we need, when they can't. They might have been fulfilled in that part of their life and have no open desire to assist in another's journey, or they might be lacking in a trait themselves, which can ultimately clash.
 
As far as biology goes, there are always tons of factors. There is the fact that people emit pheromones and have face symmetry, which we innately pick up on. Face symmetry is pretty self explanatory. It's how symmetrical one side of your face is compared to the other. People with more symmetrical faces are generally rated the most attractive. Pheromones are unique chemicals we secrete that others are able to pick up on a biologically sexual level. We aren't aware that someone is appealing to us because of their pheromones, but it certainly is a component. We also tend to pick mates that we know will be able to provide for us, or create strong offspring that will survive. Men generally look for more curvaceous women (childbearing hips) and women tend to go for strong, abled men. (Note: no, most people are attracted to something different and detailed, but on a biological level, this is what our race seeks out in a mate, even if it's not what you end up with.) But biology is not always the deciding part.
 Psychologically, like I said before, we tend to look for in other people what we lack in ourselves. In my personal opinion, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs can be applied to relationships as a whole rather than taking just a part of the pyramid and applying it to them.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is a pyramid-shaped description of how we humans live our lives. Starting from the bottom, it is the order in which we rate the things in our lives as far as importance goes in each category. The five components are physiological needs (such as water, food, shelter, etc.), safety needs (health, taking care of the family, financial security, etc.), love and belonging (friendship, family, and sexual relationships), esteem (self-confidence, belief in yourself, self-respect, etc.), and self-actualization (reaching your full self-potential). There is another level, which is self-transcendence, which is more of a spiritual re-invention of the hierarchy itself, which is not something I'm going to talk about.

Maslow believed that this hierarchy must all be fulfilled, level by level, in order for us to successfully reach the next level. Any discrepancy in a level, such as financial hardships, lack of physiological needs or safety, low self-esteem, poor intimate relationships, etc., would cause problems in every level. If any of the key components of any level are missing, a person might be subjected to stress, anxiety, and emotional or mental problems. His idea was that in order for us to become self-actualized and in turn reach our full potential in ourselves, each of these stages must be completed in a complete and successful way. Now, there are criticisms to this theory, as there are any theory in psychology. But I'm focusing on it because I find it interesting. Maslow placed love and intimacy before esteem, and both of those before self-actualization. But time and time again, we are heartbroken and devastated over the loss or failure of a relationship, due to lack of strong and healthy characteristics in ourselves. 


Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs!
Personally, completion of a sense of esteem and self-actualization (in a sense, because I don't believe actualization is something that can be nor should be fulfilled) would more benefit a relationship than the other way around. How many women do you know go for the men that break their hearts? Or men who go for women who just use them? This is due to something we are lacking in ourselves. It's not easy for someone who is attracted to people who use them and then lose them to just change what they're used to.
But, it is possible. You can change who you are attracted to. It's not easy, but if you find you no longer enjoy those appealing to you or you are sick of getting rejected, you can put in the effort to change the kind of people you build lasting relationships with. Sometimes, it just happens. Personal preferences can change. I remember in high school, I loved feminine looking guys, those who looked youthful and fresh, clean shaven, with maybe some shaggy hair. After I graduated high school, my tastes changed a bit. Though I was still into hair (the longer the better, so it became!), I started to love facial hair, the scruffiness, and more built men. I started to notice men, rather than just the boys I was used to. This comes with age, of course. But it's fascinating to notice the natural flow of things. Whereas I used to notice teenaged celebrities with bright eyes, smooth faces, and thin womanly lips, I began to notice five o' clock shadows, thick biceps and deep, husky voices. It makes sense. As a high schooler, we're looking for experiences and fun. As an adult, you begin to look for someone to take care of you, to make you awesome babies. But, if your tastes didn't change, or you're still sucking in those bad boy types, try to change it.
 
 
 
 

I still like this...


But now I like this, too. ;).
It's actually true that it's not all about the looks. We can't lie to ourselves--looks ARE important. You can't force yourself to be 100% into a relationship with someone if you don't find them physically appealing. However, personality can change that. If you've ever broken up with someone you now dislike, think back to when you were dating them. You found them attractive, didn't you? How about now? Lots of times after we start to dislike a personality, we start to lose attraction as well. It really is a whole mixture of things. So, maybe the person you've started dating isn't the most attractive person you could have ended up with, but give it some time. I think you'll realize that as you come to know and love this person's personality traits, their face and body and overall sexual presence will become intoxicating to you.

On the other hand, if you know that you tend to go for men who end up hurting you, or women who end up using you, don't go for them in the first place. I know, it's not that easy. Lots of times we go after people we think will be different, and then after getting to know them, we realize they are scarily similar to the one before them. But if you typically meet people at a bar, try and join a sport instead. If you typically meet them at school, try church. Not necessarily those places, but you get what I'm saying. Expand your horizons, go places you wouldn't normally go, talk to people you wouldn't normally talk to. Of course it's always nice to chat up the person you most would like to invite into your bed, but maybe talk to the second most attractive person in the room to you (or third! Or fourth!). And like I said, take your time. If you aren't super attracted to a person, don't give up hope. It could happen. Just keep thinking about the things you do enjoy about them. If, after a long period of time and getting to know a person you realize that the sexual intimacy is just not there, then you can end it. At least you tried.
 

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

What I Learned By (Not) Being A Sex Therapist

I realized that I never use this in a way to just talk. And I really like to talk. I usually have a topic and then write about it or push my Literotica stories. But, I think I want to talk about my blog as a whole and how I feel about continuing on in this field.


I never try to look sexy, because this is what happens when I do.
 When people want to be a hairdresser, they cut their friend's hair. When they want to be a teacher, they tutor kids. When they want to be a chef, they cook yummy food all the time. So, what does someone who wants to  be a sex therapist do? Not what you'd think. I have a lot of people assume it means I just want to have sex all the time. I mean, sex is great. But that's not what I'm trying to do. Honestly, I find it all fascinating. The way we can take one glance at someone and want to jump their bones, or how two people can mutually feel that. Think about it--attraction is fucking fascinating! And if you've ever been with someone physically, you know that it's a connection that's different than any other kind of connection. Words don't need to be said, you can just feel it, and you don't even necessarily have to know the person! Our brains light up like firework displays when we are turned on or in love. Remember, sex therapy isn't just about the act of sex. It's about relationships, and how we interact within them. It's about helping couples through problems, sexual or otherwise. It's about helping a person's self-image, or the confidence in themselves. It's about understanding that sex is something that shouldn't be shameful, selfish or greedy. It should be open, giving, consensual, and enjoyable.

People have asked if being interested in sex so much is like working in a restaurant--do I get sick of it? And the short answer is no. The long answer is--what is there to get sick of? At a restaurant, you make the same food all the time (though when I have worked at a restaurant, I didn't really get sick of the food). Sex is never the same, even with the same person. It may feel routine and basic, but it's not the same. There are so many intricacies when it comes to sex. There are different moods, different positions, different feelings, different outcomes, etc. I feel like I could learn all there is to learn and I still wouldn't know everything. I also know that I will never experience all kinds of sexual activity. Not just because there is such a large spectrum, but because I'm not interested in experiencing all of it.

Since deciding I wanted to go into sex therapy, I stopped going to school. I do intend on going back eventually, but certain life cirucmstances make it difficult right now. And that's fine! I can learn so much without school, and some day, I will go back and apply all that I've learned to be even more successful. For now, I am gaining experience and knowledge in anyway that I can. And I've learned a lot. People are all so different, in ways we can see and ways we can't. The most normal seeming person can have what seems to be the strangest kink. I love to find out what those secrets are. I love to get people talking and hear what turns them on. Am I a freak for that? Maybe. Does that mean that me talking to them about it turns me on? Not necessarily. That's one thing I'd like to get across--just because I talk about sex, doesn't mean I want to do it.

I've noticed, since coming out and doing this more often, and especially with writing my stories, that a lot more guys have been more...forward with me. Which is great! We shouldn't be afraid of sexuality, and it's great to put things on the table right away. But, as I have said already, writing about sex doesn't mean I want to engage in it with everyone. Though research and reading has actually given me more interests, it still hasn't changed my overall type (and my type is scarily specific, unfortunately). Though, I have to say, men are so easy. Getting the blood to flow downward is not a hard task (pun intended).

It has changed my view on sex as a whole, and it's role in relationships. I understand now, the idea that sex can just be sex and nothing more. However, it is difficult to separate emotion from it. It's the most intimate act you can engage in with another person, and some level of feeling has to come with that, regardless of how you go into it. You may say it's just a drunk one night stand, but you are letting another person inside of you (or you are entering another person). You are, in that moment (or several, several moments) extremely vulnerable, your body a window into what pleasures you, a little bit of who you are. Sex can absolutely be for just sex, especially if it's only a one-time thing, but it is a connection with another person. However, if the sex continues, I believe it becomes more difficult to separate emotions. Typically, it's not just wham bam thank you ma'am. Because of the endorphins released during sex, we want to lay around, snuggle, sleep, talk. That's all part of a bonding experience. Sometimes I feel it's much easier to find things in common than it is to find sexual chemistry. If you find the chemistry is right, finding other things in common will be that much easier.

Bonobo monkeys have sex like humans. They engage in oral and have orgies to settle disputes within their group. As humans, make-up sex is some of the best sex there is. As a society, I think we sometimes underestimate the sheer power of sex. Great sex & attraction has inspired music, writing, acting, etc. Lack of sex has broken up marriages. It is the best physical feeling two people can share with each other (or that someone can feel alone), and disorders within the realm of sexuality can drive a person to depression or suicide.

I think we need to stop teaching abstinence and instead talk about what sex is. As stupid as I feel for putting this on a public forum, I really didn't understand what sex actually was until I was 16. We grow up being taught that sex is this huge, magical, life-changing thing between two people who love each other. And sure, sex can be fucking awesome and leave you feeling like a different person and make you fall in love more or whatever. But we need to stop putting so much weight on it. Sex is natural. It is not dirty. Any feelings you have are normal, whether they are socially right or wrong (that doesn't mean you should act on them, however). Students should be taught what sex is, why we do it, how we do it, and when is the right time. The right time is when you feel it.

Going into this field is interesting, because it's still taboo in so many ways. It's not easy to tell everyone what specific type of psychology/therapy I was going for. People jump to conclusions, which isn't fair. If you dig deep into the world of sex, it is so much more than fucking for pleasure or offspring. Some people have disorders pertaining to sex that are so bad, they can't live normal lives. Some people crave sex so badly they need rehab for it. Some people don't crave it at all. And so much of it is in our brains and our bodies. It's an endless subject, and it means so much more than self-gratification.

Overall, this blog has made me realize that yes, this is exactly what I want to be doing with my life. I want to keep writing educational posts and dirty erotica and help people through their relationship and sexual problems. I want to do studies on why people do what they do, and what happens in their brains when they do it. I want to study lust, attraction, love, hate, and spiritual connections between two people. As people, we can connect on countless amounts of levels. Sex is just one of those levels, as are relationships.

Thank you all for continuing to read my blog and my stories!! If only I could write as a full-time job, I might update this more. I wish this was my job. Unfortunately, it is not. So for now, keep reading and giving me a reason to write more blogs and stories. And let me know what kind of stories you are interested in reading. And ask me questions about your sex life/relationship.

And as always, I need to mention that the man at the top of my sexual bucket list currently is Alexander Skarsgard. I figure if I mention his name in most of my blog posts, eventually he'll find this. A girl can dream, right? :P

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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Story Time!

It's time for my shameless self-promotion of my newest story!! I decided to appeal to the masses, so if you've read Fifty Shades of Grey, you should enjoy it. And if you haven't read it, you should still enjoy it. Just go read it. :)




Stranger Danger--a BDSM inspired story.


Friday, June 22, 2012

Sexual Bucket List

What is a bucket list? It's a list of all the things a person wants to do before they die. Go to Paris, see the Great Wall of China, go skydiving, get wasted in Vegas, swim with sharks, etc. Those are all great things to aspire to, but let's consider other facets of human life--Sex. Just like everything else, there are countless things to experience sexually. But a lot of times, like the rest of life, we get comfortable in a routine. Sex on Tuesday nights after 9 pm when the kids are in bed, he takes off your bra and you give him a blowjob for about 2 minutes before engaging in 5 minutes of woman-on-top sex can get pretty comfortable. But why stay comfortable when you can have so much more fun? In a culture that revolves around sex, we are still brought up to be so close-minded about so many things. Experimenting sexually doesn't make you a freak or a slut. Being honest, open and communicative with a partner will make this the easiest. And just because you are in a stable, long-term relationship doesn't mean that you can't change things up, or that you or your partner don't have things you are interested in and never talked about. The act of feeling pleasure is a really personal and intimate thing, and it can be really difficult to open up and discuss what you like with someone else, no matter how close you are with that person. But, if you end up getting to feel pleasure with someone you love (or don't) and achieving something you've always wanted to, it will be worth it. Now, this list is only a part of the sexual world. There are seriously endless amounts of things you can do sexually. So, put down the Cosmo and discover a world of actual exciting things, and try them before it's too late!




Note: List is not in any particular order



Sexual Bucket List


1. Threesome.
Who doesn't dream of this someday? Two women and one man is always the most popular.


2. 'Devil's' Threesome.
Two men and one woman. Not as easy to find men willing to try this one.

3. Sex (or other sexually-related activity) with someone of the same sex.
Wondering what someone of the same sex is like is human nature. Go for it. It might be fun.

4. Oral Sex.
A lot of people don't branch out from the oh-so-typical penis-in-vagina penetration. If you haven't given or received oral sex, this needs to be on the top of your list.

5. Anal Sex.
Anal sex is still pretty taboo, but it's becoming more popular everyday. I also think  a lot of people enjoy it, but don't talk about it for fear of being judged.

6. Frottage
Frottage is the act of rubbing against each other, without having sex. Like grinding. Especially for older couples, for whom sex happens more and more easily and earlier on in relationships, frottage can be exciting. Even if it's just once, have a night where you and your partner make out like crazy, rubbing up against each other and getting really excited, and don't end up having sex. Channel your inner innocent teenage first relationship nerves and excitement.

7. Masturbate
Surprisingly enough, a lot of people have never touched themselves. No one will understand how to pleasure you the way you do. Learn what you like, and you will be better off telling someone what you like and where you like it.

8. Vibrators
This goes for men and women. Using a vibrator can spice up any sex life, when you are in a relationship or single. Just have fun with it.


9. Go to a porn store
Again, this is one that you might think a lot of people already do. But if you've never been to one, go check it out. You owe it to yourself to see what's out there to play with. If going to one makes you uncomfortable, check out websites like Adam&Eve, Babeland, or Pure Romance.

10. Watch Porn
It's not as disgusting and perverted as some try to make it out to be. There are tasteful porn sites and videos. If you're not into homemade videos or raunchy, graphic online clips, check out X-Art, which has very good camera work, attractive performers, and is done in a tasteful, sexy way.


11. Read (and/or write) erotica
You can do this by yourself, with a partner, or out-loud with a partner. Lots of people find the written word to be a bigger turn on than watching an erotic scene. Try it out, it's fun.

12. Have sex in public
Be careful with this one. The thought of getting caught is exhilarating, and can be a huge turn-on. Just make sure to not harm anyone or make anyone uncomfortable, and remember that depending on where you do it, getting caught can mean getting in trouble with the law.

13. Film yourself having sex
Another one to be careful with. Even just setting up a camera to give the idea of being filmed works here. Have set rules with your partner about what will be filmed, when, and how long/where you will keep the footage. Never use footage against someone.

14. Have phone sex (or sext, nowadays).
Again, words can be sexier than actions sometimes. If you're ever in a position where you're ready to go but aren't able to, call up your partner or willing volunteer, and explain everything you'd do to them in explicit detail. Moaning and sighing is also allowed.

15. Have Period Sex.
Lots of girls don't like to have sex on their period and let's face it--it makes sense. You can feel bloated and unattractive and dirty. But the blood and fluids act as natural lubricants, your chances of getting pregnant are at their lowest, and orgasms can help those pesky cramps go away.

16. Have Drunk/High Sex
Again: BE CAREFUL. I don't mean have wasted-I'm-blacking-out-and-won't-remember-this-in-the-morning sex. I mean, have a few drinks and when you're both feeling good, let those inhibitions down and let loose. It will feel great once you're already relaxed and feeling alright. Remember legal implications as well, people!

17. Have a quickie
 Only have 15 mins. for your lunch break on a busy day? Go have a quickie in your car or at home. Knowing you don't have much time and might get in trouble if you're late will rev up your libido. Plus, this is the one time he won't apologize for not lasting long. :P.

18. Have an Orgy
Find a bunch of people (or use friends!) and just get together and all have fun. Make sure everyone is open and communicating with each other first! Setting rules and boundaries beforehand will make this go smoothly.

19. Roleplay
Try anything--teacher and student, librarian and reader, firefighter and damsel in distress, plumber and lonely housewife, cheating lovers, etc. I could go on all day.

20. Try BDSM
This one entails so much. Not everyone is into pain, and if you aren't, try tying your partner up, blindfolding each other, or having restraints. If you like pain, try whips, floggers, clamps, or e-stim.

21. Have car sex
This one is similar to, but not quite the same, as public sex. Drive out somewhere that you might or might not be seen, and go at it like teenagers.

22. Have shower sex
Take the time to really appreciate each other's bodies. Rub it all down, touch it all slowly and intimately, and then ravage it against the tiles.

23. Try different lubes and condoms.
There's new lubes coming out all the time. Warming ones, increased sensation ones. Try them all out, find out what you like.

24. Have sex underwater
This one can be difficult to do. Make sure you are using proper protection and that it will work underwater. You can be in a pool, whirlpool, or regular tub. Avoid hot tubs, though. They scream infection.

25. Use Costumes
Costumes can be bought anywhere. Try a schoolgirl, furry, or a sexy maid.

26. Dominate
Allow yourself to take control of the situation. Tell your partner that you are going to take care of them, and that they need to do nothing but lie back and take it.

27. Be a submissive
Allow your partner to be the dominant. Lay back and receive effortless pleasure!

28. Use a strap-on
This is one that might take some convincing. But it could be fun to act like the man for once.

29. Go to a motel
Even if you have your own place or car, one day, just head to a motel for a couple hours.

30. Have sex with a stranger
This one is something that some people may want to do, so don't knock it. Of course, be safe. I can't stress that enough.

31. Get a massage with a happy ending
Feel free to go to an establishment, but a partner will probably be more than willing to help you out here.

32. Try different positions
You may love missionary or cowgirl. But try doggie style and reverse cowgirl. Go online and google sex positions, pick a random one, and try it.

33. Have sex up against a wall
What's more primal than being overcome with lust and being pushed up a wall/pushing someone up a wall and having your way with them?

34. Women--have an internal orgasm.
Lots of women are only able to come from clitoral stimulation. Attempt to find your g-spot (just a few inches in, at the top. Use a come-here motion to stimulate it) and give yourself an internal orgasm

35. Women--teach yourself to ejaculate.
Women can come like men, though not quite the same. Some women are able to squirt large amounts of liquids just like men can, and other just drip water. When you get the sensation that you're going to pee--go with it. You're most likely not going to.

36. Go to a strip club
Just for the experience. See what the girls/guys can do.

37. Give (and get!) a lap dance
Lap dances are sexy in many ways. Get one, then give one with your new-found knowledge.

38. Take boudoir pictures
Wear your sexiest clothing and take sexy pictures, with a professional or with your friends/partner.

39. Have sex while at someone else's house
Just be respectful and don't yell. Also, clean the sheets after yourself!

40. Have make-up sex
After fighting (preferably about something very minor), make up for it by having sex. Angry sex is always a great idea.

41. Have sex with someone while someone else watches, and vice versa.
Not much to say about this one. Enjoy it.

42. Get a sexual piercing.
Pierce your genitals, nipples, lips or tongue. They have vibrating tongue rings, just saying.

43. Swing
Switch partners with another couple. Communication is key, and make sure everyone is comfortable with the situation and each other.

44. Manual Stimulation
Never underestimate the power of a good handjob, even after years of sex. Women, get fingered.

45. Fantasize about someone else during sex.
It's not hurting anyone.

46. Have sex with your clothes/panties on.
Pull them aside and have fun.

47. Have sex without a condom
I'm not saying have unprotected sex. When you are in a long-term relationship, on birth control, and you're both tested and comfortable, try it.

48. Try to finish at the same time
This is not as common as people think it is. Try to pace yourselves to finish together.

49. Have sex on an airplane.
Looking around online, this seems to be a popular one. Join the mile high club...

50. Play with hot wax
Be careful and know your/your partner's limits.

51. Have sex more than once in one day.
I think most people have done this, but have sex two, three, four, etc. times.

52. Go to a glory hole.
No explanation here, either.

53. Go to a peepshow.
Watch the girls dance around. You can't touch.

54. Have a one-night stand
Pretty much like the stranger one, but have sex with someone (even if you know them) once, and then never again.

55. Sex with a celebrity
If you could ever get so lucky...

56. Learn to orgasm without any touching
It can be done.

57. Experience a full-body orgasm.
It will feel amazing.

58. Have multiple orgasms.
If you can handle it ;).

59. Give/get a foot job


60. Give/get a hand job with her boobs (boob job sounded wrong).


61. Give/get an ass job

62. Be loud
If you're a quiet person, try and be loud once or twice. It can be pretty damn sexy.

63. Have sex in the middle of the night
Wake up in the middle of the night and can't fall back asleep? Surprise your partner with some sexual activity.

64. Women-Have pregnant sex.
The baby will not know what you're doing.

65. Have post-op sex with a transgender person.
This one is self-explanatory.

66. Fisting.
Ouch. But yes?





These are only 66 things I could think of/find online. People are eclectic in their sexual tastes. You can try any variation of any of these things, and tons more. Again, be safe, open, respectful and honest with all of these and more. And If you have more to contribute, comment, please! :).


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