Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Logo Contest!!

Hello, friends!!

The new year is rapidly approaching, and new years mean new beginnings. I'm planning to focus a lot more on the layout and advertising of my blog/website. Whereas I know all the basics that most 20-somethings do about computers, I am useless when it comes to html, widgets, designs, etc. I also am not good at digital artwork. When I first started my blog, I relied heavily on sex appeal to gain followers. I am now revising my purpose and wanting to head more towards the educational side of things. My banner and current logo is cool and I love the picture, but I feel that it is more racy than I'd like and may give the wrong idea. I'm looking for something fairly simplistic that incorporates the 'sex kitten' name of the blog. I love the idea of having a simplistic cat face with big red lips, but when I drew it, it looked awful.

I'm hoping some of you wonderful artists out there can help me out with choosing a logo. Once I have a good logo and some help with my website, I can start branding The Sex Kitten a bit more, reaching out to more people. I'd like to unveil a winning logo on New Year's Day, January 1st, 2016. Submissions can be sent to The winner will receive a t-shirt with their design on it, as well as credit on my blog/website/social media pages!!

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Question: 'I'm interested in anal play. Is this a natural curiosity or am I bisexual?'

Dear Sex Kitten,

I am 23 from Australia and I am seeking some advice or someone's opinion that has been running through my mind the past week. I am wondering if I am Straight, Bi or just plain adventurous. 

I have slept with 4 with females, all lovely and the sex was great. Over the past year however I have not been laid. I am very sexual person and often watch porn and masturbate almost daily. The porn is straight and mostly females.

Cause I am curious and quite sexual, I am very interested in anal at the moment. I have never had anal sex with anyone, but I'm interested in trying it. Most of the porn I watch is female anal masturbation or anal sex.

Continuing my fascinating with it, I have bought dildos, butt plugs and have used them a few times. I love the feeling and its great for sexual satisfaction. However I'm still curious.

In order to satisfy my curiosity, I am thinking of going to a gay sex club near by and maybe have sex with guys or have some fun. However, I do not feel sexually attracted to guys, I have never fallen for a guy or think of guys in a romantic or attractive way.

My question to you is, is this a natural curiosity or is this my mind telling me that I'm bisexual? I am 100% sure that I am attracted to girls, so the prospect of being a homosexual is very very unlikely.

Thank you for reading my email and I hope to hear a reply soon.

Dear William

Thanks for writing me!! So, you're really into anal lately. That's great! And what else is great is that you totally don't have to have an orientation crisis about it--being into anal does not make you anything more than heterosexual, if that is how you identify. If the thought of butts turns you on but the thought of penises turns you off, it sounds like you are pretty much totally straight. Anal sex is actually extremely popular to men in hetero relationships, specifically in their twenties. If you are more focused on anal sex with women, that's cool. It appeals to a lot of people because there is almost no chance of pregnancy that way, and it is something not all women are into, making it a bit more taboo and exciting. If you are more focused on anal with yourself, that also makes sense. Stimulating your prostate is extremely pleasurable (or so I've heard :P). 

Unfortunately, our society is fairly close-minded when it comes to sex, and even more so when it comes to anal/oral. (America is pretty hush-hush about sex, not sure exactly how Australia is. I've got some friends there, hope to visit someday!) Because of this, a lot of men question their sexuality when they realize that butt stuff feels good. You are not alone!! Some studies even say that prostate play can give you stronger orgasms and decrease your chance of prostate cancer. I think those are awesome reasons to get into butts (pun intended). Basically, I don't think you have to worry at all about your sexual orientation. But even if any part of you was interested in fooling around with someone of the same sex, you don't have to feel bad about that. It's totally natural to have those kinds of thoughts. 

Check this thing out. It's a modification of the Kinsey Heterosexual-Homosexual Scale. It helps you figure out where you fall as far as your attraction to other genders. Basically, people are trying to push the point that most people are not 100% straight or gay.  A LOT of people fall somewhere in between. And there are plenty of people who enjoy sex with one gender but relationships with the other, or vice versa. Based on what you said, it sounds to me like you are pretty much only into women. In this case, I'm going to say that your interest in anal is purely sexually curiosity. We should be exploring every part of our bodies!! 

Check out this article about sex toys from LELO, a company I am actually affiliated with. They have a line of prostate massagers you should check out. This article also actually talks about the problem of questioning masculinity and our 'culturally ingrained homophobia.' It's a good read. So, check out those toys and have fun!! Also, there are a ton of women that are into pegging. If you aren't familiar, it's when your partner wears a strap-on in order to please you anally. Check out websites like Fetlife, where you can make a social page similar to Facebook and use it to find other people interested in the types of things you are, sexually. 

 I think that if you are interested in going to a gay club, it is a good place to go and flirt and talk to some guys and see if you feel any sexual chemistry. If you don't, don't feel bad or pressured to make something out of nothing. If you have any gay friends, they would be a great resource. Just talk to them about how you are feeling and see if they have any advice for you, or even if they would be interested in maybe fooling around with you to help figure out some of your confusion. I think you shouldn't think of it as a question of whether or not you want to have sex with a man but more of do you want to have sex with a particular man. 

Try out your curiosities but if you don't feel it, don't push it. Some people are really turned on by the idea of something but then aren't into it when it actually happens (threesomes, cuckolding, cross-dressing, etc.). So, if I had to label your sexuality, I'd probably say bi-curious. You're mostly straight, but the idea of engaging sexually with someone of the same sex is interesting to you. I would suggest going to a gay club and flirting a bit, or maybe talking to a gay friend/meeting a gay man on a dating/hookup app and seeing if they can help you out with any of your interests. Take things slow and remember that even if you are finding yourself wanting to have sex, if it starts and you aren't feeling it, you can say no and stop at any time. And also, make sure you use protection. :)

-The Sex Kitten

Friday, November 27, 2015

Holiday Gift Giving Guide--X-Rated!! Black Friday deals!!

Hello everyone!! It’s that holiday time again. It seems to come faster and faster each year, doesn’t it? Well, about three years ago I did a holiday gift wish list on here. It remains, to this day, one of my most popular posts. You guys really love lists. That’s alright because I’m here to give you another one!! Here are some really cool products that are great for gifting some awesome person in your life (or even yourself!)!!

Before the list, I want to mention a new affiliate program that I am currently apart of!! Have you ever heard of LELO? It's a company that I have mentioned many times, including in my last wish list post. I'd always heard of their Luna beads, but I now know of many other products. For Black Friday, LELO is offering 20% off products AND free shipping. This deal goes until December 1st!! Check it out here. All LELO products on this list have a link attached to the product names. Follow those links to buy from me for my affiliate program. Seriously, these are some great deals. These toys are not cheap--they are high quality and very nice. You can get them for such a great deal right now. Check it all out!!

Crescendo from MysteryVibe
Pre-order now for $149, regularly $199

This awesome toy is one I have covered in the past. Its Kickstarter campaign earlier this year was extremely lucrative; it raised much more than originally planned. Shipments of the Crescendo are expected to go out in December, making it a perfect holiday gift!! The Crescendo is bendable, has six motors, and allows you to make your own custom vibrations through a phone app. It’s also water-proof, dust-proof, and has wireless charging. Besides the great deal for you and yours, it’s also an excellent start-up company with several sex-positive members that you should support.

Currently $159.60, regularly $399
The Tiani 24k is a remote-controlled toy meant for insertion during intercourse that vibrates and creates pleasure for both partners. This isn’t a cheap, boring old vibrator. It has a band of 24k gold around the middle. This thing shows dedication and class. Get off in style.
The coolest thing about this is that it comes with a one year warranty, the ability to receive 50% products if issues occur after the year, AND couples’ insurance. Couples’ Insurance assures that, should your relationship not make it within the next 12 months, you will be able to return the Tiani 24k and get a replacement toy. Seriously, how awesome is that?! It also has glowing reviews from people such as sex&relationship counselor Ian Kerner and sex educator Tristan Taormino. If you can afford it, you should definitely try it out.

Tiani 2 or Noa from LELO
Currently $127.20, regularly $159/Currently $79.20, regularly $99

Tiani 2

The Tiani 2 is the less-expensive, non-gold plated version of the Tiani 24k. The Noa is similar in shape and function, but for even less. If you want a fun sex toy to give as a gift but don’t want to break the bank, check these ones out.

Magic Wand Original Hv-260 2013 Model from Hitachi (Sold from Amazon)
Currently $48.69 (and Prime eligible), regularly $75.37

If you haven’t heard of the Hitachi Magic Wand, you’ve probably seen it used in porns or other sexual media. If you haven’t, I’d honestly be surprised. This thing is one of the most well known pleasure products out there. A lot of companies have their own version that they label ‘personal massager’, but we all know what they’re really used for. This wand remains on Amazon’s top sellers and most wished for lists, and has over 1,300 reviews. Getting this for under $50 and free two day shipping through Prime is a ridiculous deal, and you should probably buy it like, yesterday.

Lynk Pleasure Products Waterproof and Wireless Butt Plug (Sold by Amazon)
Currently $15.50 (with FREE shipping), regularly $39.99

So, I haven't personally tried this product, but I have to say, looking at the reviews has me intrigued. It is 3.5 inches of pure silicone with a vibrating bullet built in (does take 1 AAA battery, not included). The information says it is made for men, but also very pleasurable for women. Butt plugs are typically targeted towards males, but that shouldn't turn you women away from it! Seriously, check out the reviews if you need convincing. Then buy this, because $15 is a great deal.

Astroglide Natural Lubricant,2.5 oz.
Retails for about $8, depending on the store

This is always my number one suggestion for lubricants!! I think it's the best one out there. I have recently started using coconut oil as a personal lubricant, but sometimes it's not as easy. I still prefer this as far as lube goes. This one is not as sticky and slimy as some of the other ones, and it doesn't leave you feeling gross with any irritation. It is water-based and glycerin, paraben, fragrance, flavor and hormone free. It's so nice to have a product that isn't chock full of irritants! You can use this lube with regular latex and polyisoprene condoms. Great stocking stuffer ;)

Coochy Shave Creme by Pure Romance
$20 for 8 fl. oz.

I first found out about this stuff at a Pure Romance Party. I didn't buy it, because I was pretty broke at the time, but my friends that did buy it loved it!! I've heard nothing but great things about this stuff. You know how when you shave, sometimes you feel all dry and like you're on fire afterwards? And you have those little itchy red bumps?? Yeah, this stuff prevents that!! It is a bit pricey, but can you really put a price on comfort? Don't answer that. Just buy it.

Clone-A-Willy At-Home Penis/Vagina Molding Kits by Clone-A-Willy
Anywhere from $30-$50, currently on sale (free shipping on orders over $60)

It may be a bit expensive for your typical white elephant/Christmas gift exchange, but this would really be a hilarious gift to get for someone. This is mostly just a silly option I thought I'd put in after hearing about these fairy recently. You basically use the silicon molding to make a sex toy based off of your own genitals. You can get penis or vagina molds in either different colors of silicone, wax candle, or edible chocolate. Oh, and they also vibrate. These would probably be pretty cool for a couple in a long distance relationship. Get one and let me know how it works!!

Currently $127.20, regularly $159.00

Another Lelo product!! You can actually find this kind of toy on almost any sex toy website, but this is the one I'm going to use in this list. It's a remote controlled vibrator bullet that you can wear. This one is so cool because while you're wearing it, someone else can have the remote and control when the vibrations occur and what they do. I mean, they have to be near you. But it's such a great idea for a date night. It will get you all turned on before you get back home and can jump each other. I've always wanted one of these things because I love the idea of it. Get one and tell me it's just as sexy as I think it would be.

Secretary DVD on Amazon
Movie with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal, 2002
$12.49 and Prime eligible (Currently only 1 left on DVD!!)

When I first met my boyfriend and was talking about 50 Shades of Grey, he mentioned this movie. I was talking about how I love the fact that the 50 Shades fad is opening up more people to the idea of BDSM but that it is unrealistic and pretty much abusive. I've heard that this movie is a fairly realistic interpretation of couples in BDSM-type relationships. I have yet to watch it, but I plan to and then write a review about it on here. It is about a woman (Gyllenhaal) who gets a secretary position for a lawyer (Spader), whose job turns into more than office-type duties. Sounds interesting, huh?

Beginner Harness Kit by Early 2 Bed 
$40 (Shipping $6.50)

All sex toys can be for couples of any gender and orientation. Even harnesses like this can be for hetero couples looking to spice some things up. But I wanted to include this especially for same sex couples/transgendered people. This beginner harness is a great way to make you feel like you have your own penis that you can penetrate your partner with. You can even use your own toys, as long as they are 1.25 in. in diameter or narrower. It's fairly cheap, as far as these things go, too. The silicone dildo is 5.5 in. and the harness fits up to 60''. Great for people who want to try pegging. 

Tension Lover Digital E-Stim Unit by PinkCherry
Currently $229.99, regularly $299.99

This is a digital electrostim device. It allows you to control the electrostimulation of yourself or your partner. These things come with the adhesive pads that you attach to various body parts and basically lightly shock them. It's that weird prickly tingling sensation, similar to when your foot falls asleep, but better. I've never used one of these machines, but after starting to get e-stim therapy at the chiropractor this past year, I understand why people are into them. It feels good and it's fun. This one is pretty pricey for anyone who hasn't experimented with e-stim before, but it's still a great looking product. This 'Shock Therapy' toy is a little better for beginners, so check it out if this sounds interesting to you.

These are just a few products that have really stood out to me this past year and I think a lot of you would enjoy. But there are tons of deals out there today and for the next few weeks, so do your research and buy something that works for you and your partner(s). Here are just a few other websites that have some awesome Black Friday deals. Happy sex-ing!! :)

Good Vibrations--25% off sitewide 
EdenFantasys--15% sitewide, free shipping on orders of $39 or more, up to 80% off some toys
Fun Factory--25% off your order, free shipping
Liberator--30% sitewide, 50% off sale items, free shipping on orders of $75 or more
PinkCherry--30% off sitewide, plus tons of awesome sales

Monday, November 9, 2015

Not going to post for a couple of weeks...

Normally I am pretty sporadic as far as my posts go. I've been really trying to work on it!! I meant to do a post on Halloween but then the day ended up being super busy and I forgot :(. We're getting close to the holidays now though, and I have a few posts planned for you, including an updated Holiday Gift-Giving Guide!! But, before that, I will be celebrating the holiday tomorrow that is Fallout 4 release day. I will be focusing on playing it for a couple of weeks so I won't be writing. I just wanted to let you know that I have an excuse this time and I'm not just being lazy!! If you all miss me too much and still want to hear from me, you can always email me or come watch me play the game on my

Thanks, friends!!

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

#NoBraDay for Breast Cancer Awareness

October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It is important because about 1 in 8 U.S. women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Besides lung cancer, breast cancer is the biggest cancer diagnosis and killer of women, though the numbers have gone down due to extensive research and advanced screenings. This is great news!! The pink campaign for breast cancer has definitely brought a TON of awareness and funding towards the disease. Like any charity or donation center, make sure you are doing your research before donating. Awareness and money is important in helping to cure women (and men!) afflicted with diseases and preventing them from getting sick in the first place. This is where I will mention that Planned Parenthood does offer screenings and mammograms for early detection, which is SO important. It's also important to remember to give yourself regular breast exams. Just check out your boobs from time to time to make sure they look and feel normal. Here are some symptoms of breast cancer:

"According to the American Cancer Society, any of the following unusual changes in the breast can be a symptom of breast cancer:
  • swelling of all or part of the breast
  • skin irritation or dimpling
  • breast pain
  • nipple pain or the nipple turning inward
  • redness, scaliness, or thickening of the nipple or breast skin
  • a nipple discharge other than breast milk
  • a lump in the underarm area
These changes also can be signs of less serious conditions that are not cancerous, such as an infection or a cyst. It’s important to get any breast changes checked out promptly by a doctor."
Now that I've mentioned some information about breast cancer, I want to talk about somethings I've noticed about it. Though a man's chances of getting breast cancer are about 100 times less likely, it does still happen. In 2015, it is estimated that 2,350 men will be diagnosed and 440 will die from it. Yes, women are much more likely to get it, but it is something that affects everyone. Second, breast cancer is one of the most talked about cancers. It affects mostly white women. Of course it is important to research and pay attention to, but there are so many other cancers and other diseases/illnesses that affect men and women of every age and race that need much more awareness and funding. Third, the way breast cancer raises awareness is in definite need of change. What do I mean by this?
I remember when I was in middle school and lots of kids (mostly boys) started wearing those 'I love boobies' bracelets. The intention of those bracelets is to show people that you are supportive of those struggling with cancer and to raise awareness for people that have it and to get more support, funding, etc. I don't know how this worked with the adults, but I know that when I was 13-15, these bracelets were just funny to young kids. Boys giggled at the term 'boobies.' Lots of schools started telling kids they couldn't wear them because they were distractions. They weren't taken seriously. 
Today has been dubbed 'No Bra Day' and is trending on many social networks as such. What is no bra day? It's exactly as it sounds. It's asking women to not wear bras and to post a picture of themselves on social media not wearing a bra. I looked around and I can't find exactly how this helps breast cancer. At least with the bracelets, part of the funding was still going to research. This No Bra Day, in my opinion, is just sexualizing a serious issue. Me posting a picture on my personal Instagram of me not wearing a bra is not going to help anyone. It's not going to make someone suffering with breast cancer feel better. It's not going to help find a cure or pay anyone's medical bills. But it will give people a chance to see my chest. If anything, I feel like this is a negative thing. Women that have unfortunately needed to receive a mastectomy as a result of their cancer will just be reminded of what they lost. And men who have had breast cancer--how does this help raise awareness for them?? Maybe this day should be about allowing women who have lost their 'boobies' to show us that they are still beautiful without their boobs. Maybe this day should be about desexualizing breasts to the point that the general public doesn't freak out when a women uses them for their nature-intended purpose-breastfeeding. Why is our country okay with women taking topless pictures and going without bras in the name of 'awareness' but not okay with using those breasts to feed their children the way nature intended?
Rethink popular trends such as this. If you want to bring awareness to breast cancer, post some symptoms. Sign the petition to keep funding for Planned Parenthood so women of all ages can be screened for symptoms. Donate to breast cancer research. Look up the statistics and share them. Next time you are in a room with more than eight women, realize that at least one of you will probably develop breast cancer in your lifetime and do something to prevent that--not wearing a bra is not a preventative measure. Of course, no women NEEDS to wear a bra. But if you prefer to, not wearing one on any give day will not prevent someone from dying from a horrible disease.

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Woo-hoo, big summer blowout!! Happy First Day of Fall! :)

This is my 100th blog post!! Watch it to see what's been on my mind and to hear the winner of my awesome giveaway :)

***The National Domestic Violence Hotline***

Planned Parenthood's

Thanks!! :)

Tuesday, August 4, 2015

My 99th Post Reflection!!

I appreciate all of you who come here to read my posts, or who 'like' my links on Facebook. I had the idea for a blog for a long time before deciding to actually do it, and I still have major motivation problems four years later. A lot of time I can't find the proper words to say exactly what I want to say. But one thing I know that I want to say is that I want people to understand why am I doing my blog. I think that a lot of times people think I'm very sexual minded, or maybe even promiscuous. I won't lie--I love sex. But I also love sex in the context of a relationship more than anything else. I'm not pushing promiscuity with my blog, nor am I condemning it. Basically I want to make sure that no matter your sexual preference, you are engaging safely and with full knowledge. I want to make sure people know their preferences, their orientations, their kinks and fetishes, and how to accurate portray them to their partners. I want people to be safe and ask consent. I want people to know their bodies. For some reason, especially in the older generation (no offense), finds shame in spreading information about our bodies.

When I first started my blog, I was looking for views. I entered a contest about writing erotica and realized it got me a lot of readers. In the beginning, I worked the angle of sex appeal. I posted a lot about sex. Any time I talk about my blog, people tell me, "I could totally do a job like that, I LOVE sex and everything about it!!" I don't want people to think I'm interested in this career because sex is fun. Of course that's part of it, but I want to help people. I know what it's like to not understand your body. I know what it's like to be in and out of hospitals in pain, being accused of having STDs. I know what it's like to be trapped in an extremely unhealthy relationship. I know what domestic abuse is like, and I know what's it like to be taken advantage of. I don't want people to suffer in ways that I did. And there are plenty of ways that I haven't suffered but still want to educate people in. Do you know how many trans-gendered people are murdered every day? Do you know how many gay people are disowned from their families every day? How many girls cry because they think something is wrong with them because of some sexual problem? How many men get lumped in the assumption that all men are pigs? How many women walk down the street in normal clothing and get harassed to the point of staying indoors?

I want to focus more on relationships. Sex is a huge part of a relationship, but there are so many other aspects of a relationship that are just as important. Maybe you connect with someone physically better than you've ever connected with someone else. But what does that mean when you have nothing in common, no similar life goals? No one wants to be alone. And so many of us don't know how to be in a healthy relationship. In this age of social media, we tend to see the positive exciting moments in a lot of other's relationships. But we don't know how they maintain that status. We also don't know that something else isn't going on. Facebook makes everything look nice. People like to post the good things in their lives that make them look exciting and successful. You never know what is happening behind closed doors.

A lot of my friend's parents growing up were divorced. Mine were together. One time, my dad took me all the way to Chicago for a concert for my 16th birthday, to see my favorite band. One time, my dad drove us to Chicago to stalk my mom when she was out with friends and threatened to kill her. He also used to love to leave flowers in her car. While many women thought it was sweet, my mother knew it was his manipulative way of showing her that he could find her wherever she was. Relationships may look great from the outside, but you never know what goes on behind closed doors. You should never compare your relationship to another based on the small things you see and hear about them.

For example, a lot of my friends were jealous that I lived on my own, with my boyfriend, at eighteen. Most didn't know I was kicked out after my dad was arrested for assault. Most didn't know that my boyfriend and I had intense fights and slept in different rooms after breaking up every other week. We hung out all the time, going out to dinners and socializing with friends. I dreamt of marriage and kids, he wanted neither. He loved smoking weed and I broke down over panic attacks. We weren't happy. But everyone in my family married young and had kids young. I felt I needed to do the same, but I felt I would never find someone who really loved me for me, so I thought I needed to settle.

I dated around, and was devastated at each end of a relationship. I focused too hard on myself--questioning what was wrong with me, what I could have done differently. I wasn't thinking about what I'd learned or how to grow from the experience. But that's what I think now. I think about these past relationships as experiences and I have taken bits and pieces from each one and now use them in my current relationship. I used to bottle up my anger and spew it, loudly and aggressively, whenever I saw a good chance too. Now, I communicate my issues in a calm and respective way as soon as they arise. I actually care about the opinions and feelings of my partner as much as my own, when before I was mostly about self satisfaction. In past relationships, I was always trying to figure out how to make myself happy. Now, I care about the happiness of my partner just as much as I care about my own. We are in this together, we are a team. The SAME team.

People asked me at 21 about relationship advice. I didn't know what I was talking about then and I don't know what I'm talking about now. I'm not wise. Maybe I'm wiser than my age because of my experiences, but I'm still only 24. My opinions and advice come from only 24 years of relationships. I have been through a lot and I will continue to go through it. My blog is meant to help others in similar situations. I've dealt with sexual disorders, relationship problems, birth control, pregnancy issues, domestic abuse, assault, cheating, breakups, harassment, etc. etc., whether they were my problems or a close family member/friend. I don't want others to be in those situations, and if they have to be, I want to be someone who will listen and help however I can. I want to try and focus more on the people I want to help and the things I need to do to help them. This blog isn't about how much we all love sex, it's about helping people to have normally functioning relationships, including sexually.

This is my 99th blog post, Had I been more motivated in the past, this post would have been a year or two ago. I'm glad it's now. It took me a long time to get out of some toxic situations in my life and I feel much more clear-headed than I would have been even a year ago. I saw this quote the other day. I don't remember where I saw it or what exactly it was, but it was basically saying that a relationship is not two halves becoming one whole, it's two wholes coming together to work together. It's really important that everyone realizes that you're not looking for your better half or your other half. You are a whole. Relationships with yourself are just as important as relationships with other people. You need to understand and be okay with yourself before you can understand and be with other people. I want to help people understand that, which is why I want to focus on relationships more so than sex.

For my 100th blog post, I will be doing some kind of giveaway. All of the people that 'like' my Facebook page, The Sex Kitten, will be entered. Anyone who shares the link will be entered twice. I will post that person's name in the 100th blog post. I'm not sure when I will do it, probably in the next month or so. I love talking to all of you and I really appreciate when you come to me with your questions or trust me to give advice. Please continue to do so. My blog isn't perfect and I'm not a professional by any means, so thanks so much for reading and supporting me.

Monday, June 8, 2015


To date, one of my most consistently popular blog posts is my X-rated Holiday Gift Guide. While I wrote it around the holidays, it's important to remember that that is not the only time we should be buying gifts for ourselves or other people. There are some amazing pleasure toys out there that deserve to be gifted all year round. For example, awhile back, I told you all about an awesome Kickstarter campaign that was successfully backed for a product called Skea. It is a sex toy that allows you to practice strengthening your kegels by allowing you to control a character in a phone app with your pelvic muscles. I thought it sounded like the coolest thing ever. Well, now I have another super awesome product that you all need to hear about!!

What's the worst thing about current on-the-market sex toys? I think a lot of people tend to see them as very uniform. Most dildos and vaginal insertion toys are the same--the same hard stick-like figure with the same vibration patterns. Right now, there is a new pleasure toy that is looking for help getting backed. The company that created it, MysteryVibe, is based in England, UK. The toy is currently listed on BORN.COM, which is essentially like Kickstarter. It is a site that hosts new and innovative products for crowdfunding.

The Crescendo is a big deal because it is so utterly different than any other product on the market right now. It is the Gumby of sex toys. This toy moves and bends to any shape your body is feeling like dealing with at any given moment. And it's sturdy--you turn that thing into an 'S' shape and it will stay that way until you are done with it. So you can bend it to any shape you want, so what? Well, you can also make it vibrate anyway you want. Yes, modern sex toys are really multi-platform devices. The company that makes Crescendo, MysteryVibe, will also have an app. This app will allow lucky owners to come up with their own vibration patterns for their fun times that they can send wirelessly to their Crescendo device. So, not only do you get to twist this thing into any shape you want, but you also get to decide how it gets you off. How adaptive!!

Some other cool things about the Crescendo device is that it is extremely quiet, holds two full hours at full battery charge, has a 4gb memory to hold all kinds of vibration patterns, and has a charger that can also charge any QI-compliant smartphones. This things battery will last long than my phone, though. It should work for two full hours on maximum intensity and at least 4,000 hours in its lifetime. An in-built circuit allows the toy to remain on super-low power on standby with a 100 day standby life!!

The texture of the toy is rubber, but it is skin safe--hypoallergenic, non-latex and non-toxic. It can handle being bent back and forth thousands of times and repels dust the way most pleasure toys do not. It is water-proof and water-based lube is recommended. At launch, three to five colors will be available.

In their biography, MysteryVibe explains their intentions--

"Our vision is to build a complete sensual experience that learns & adapts to your body and your every desire. We are at a really exciting time for sexual expression and the possibilities are limitless. Through MysteryVibe, we want to empower people to design and take control of their own pleasure experiences."

They know that not everyone wants a three inch straight, stiff pink toy that vibrates slowly. This toy really is a customizable pleasure break-through. Based in London, the group boasts a large staff full of intelligent, like-minded workers, all working together to push this sex-positive pleasure machine. Whereas there are many men who have worked/are working on this project (including the CEO, Soumyadip Rakshit), tons of women are involved as well, giving their opinions and advice on how to make this a toy that all women can enjoy.

The project finishes on BORN in five days. It currently has 449 supporters and has raised €42,606 of it's €50,000 as of Monday evening, June 8th, United States time. The company has worked with seymourpowell (one of the world's leading Design & Innovation Consultancies), Fueled (a web & mobile app development agency), and Condiment Junkie (a creative agency specializing in sensory branding), as well has having received small seed investments from many others.

The idea came to them in 2008, and has been in testing and development stages since then. Starting in July, the company will run a pilot production to test with MysteryVibe club members. After taking feedback from members, finalized development will begin and Crescendo should be mass-delivered starting in November of 2015. 

There are plenty of perks to backing this product. The biggest, in my opinion, is knowing you helped an amazing new product hit the shelves for people all around the world to experience a new form of pleasure. But for even as low as €10, you can get your name on the MysteryVibe website forever, as well as receive 30% off all purchases and pre-orders from the site as well as updates from their mailing list for backers. For €99, you can get a brand new Crescendo in November 2015. This is half the normal price, and there are only 155 of this gift left, so get it now while you can!! For €599, become a MysteryClub member and receive free toys for life, twice--once in development stage, and once as a final product.

Crescendo was publicly launched at TechCrunch DisruptNY in Manhattan, NY last month. 
People from six different continents have backed this project, and you can, too. 
If you are interested in backing this project (honestly, even $1 helps something like this!!), please click the highlighted link to learn more and donate!! 

Friday, May 22, 2015

Video Game Blog Post?!

Hey guys!! Have you heard of Twitch? It is a website dedicated to online video shows!! Basically, people play video games but it's over the inter-webs so other people can tune in and watch them play, chat with them, etc. It's a really cool platform for gamers all over the world. I've had a decent amount of guys in my life who are very dedicated to streaming, and it's given me an idea.

I tend to have a bit of a hard time motivating myself to write posts. It's pretty time consuming. I've also recently starting streaming a bit on my boyfriend's Twitch, and that leaves even less time for me to do other things. Well, I've decided to do both.

thesxkitten Twitch page

On this Twitch stream, I can play video games while talking to you all about things I think are important and interesting, and since there is a chat box, I can get your immediate input or answer any questions you may have about anything in your relationships or lives.

This is a new endeavor, and I have no idea how it will work. But I'll never know unless I try, right? So come follow me on Twitch and let's find out together!! :)

Click the picture above to bring you to my stream!!

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

The Week in Sex

Hello, all!

I have this problem where I think that sitting down to write a post will take me hours and every one of them has to be long and detailed. But! That is not true. I put too much pressure on myself sometimes, and to ease that, I am going to start doing something a little different. This might also put me on a better schedule as far as posting more regularly. Instead of posting at random times about one particular subject, I'm going to try and update once a week about a few different current time news stories, giving just short summaries of each. We'll see how this goes. Any feedback is much appreciated :) That being said, here are some popular news stories from this past week as they pertain to my blog!!

Columbia Student Carries Mattress at Graduation to Protest Campus Rape

Graduate Emma Sulkowicz and her mattress
Emma Sulkowicz carried a mattress along with her cap and gown on Tuesday, May 19th. She graduated from Columbia University, more specifically, the undergraduate arts and sciences college. While she was there, she began a senior visual arts thesis called, "Carry That Weight." The project consisted of her carrying a twin-sized mattress around campus, including during her graduation ceremony. Why would she come up with such an idea? Well, Sulkowicz was raped during her sophomore year of college in August 2012 in her own dorm bed by a fellow student. Nothing came of her reports against the student with her campus authorities, nor her NYPD police report filed in 2014. She filed a Title IX Complaint with the US Department of Education, which is basically for anyone who feels they have been discriminated against due to their sex while receiving financial aid. She is not the only student who has complaints about how Columbia handles sexual assault reports, but she is definitely the most known. Her alleged rapist is Paul Nungesser, and it looks like he also graduated this year. But he didn't want to go out quietly. No, Nungesser also filed a Title IX Complaint, his lawsuit claiming that “The Mattress Project subjected Paul to verbal aggression, intimidation and hostility based on his gender,” the lawsuit states." You know, the aggression and hostility was because of a girl carrying a mattress, not because he raped said girl. What a piece of work. Now that they are both graduated, I hope that Sulkowicz continues to put such works on display, bringing more and more attention to the issues of sexual assault and polices regarding it on campuses.

Twins Marcus and Lucas. Not the twins from this story, but some from a 2011 story.
This story is pretty anonymous--everyone mentioned is only identified by their initials. Basically, a woman, "T.M." gave birth to twin girls in January of 2013. T.M. wanted child support for the children and had been in a relationship with a man at the time, A.S. She listed A.S. as the father of both twins. A DNA test was ordered for the child support petition to go through and--lo and behold! The DNA of A.S. did not match up with both girls. The mother then admitted that she had had sexual relations with another man the same week she was impregnated by A.S. Whoa! How is this even possible? Well, basically, two different men impregnate two eggs during a woman's cycle--a crazy thing called heteropaternal superfecundation. Sperm can live inside of a woman for about five days, but in order for a woman to get pregnant, she and her partner must be fertile. She must have ovulated two eggs and happened to get pregnant with both. This lady must have been pretty fertile, and she must have an excellent biological taste in men to pick two with such strong sperm. I hope she was able to get the other man on the child support front. Here is another story of twins with two different fathers.

Well...the title kind of explains everything, doesn't it? Rev. Matthew Makela worked as an Associate Pastor at St. John's Lutheran Church in Midland, Michigan. He did what many Reverends do--he spoke against homosexuality and apparently called it a "sinful temptation." How very hypocritical of him, seeing as how he was active on Grindr--a popular app that helps to bring together gay, bi and bi-curious guys. From what I've heard, it's pretty much a dating/hook-up site. So, what was Makela doing on this website? Surely he was preaching to the gay men about the evils of their ways? Nope, he was "looking for a guy to mess around with," talking to men and posting shirtless pictures of himself. Makela, who is in a heterosexual marriage, has posted on Facebook and other websites about how he does not agree with gay marriage. Apparently, fooling around with someone of the same sex is okay. Makela resigned on Sunday, conveniently, a day before news of his Grindr profile surfaced. His former church issued a statement telling members to ignore talk of Makela during this scandal.

London Chanel was a 21-year old male-to-female transgendered person from Philadelphia. Chanel's 31-year old roommate, Raheam Felton, has been arrested for stabbing Chanel in the neck and back during a domestic dispute. Authorities claim this dispute had nothing to do with Chanel being transgender. Regardless of why she was killed, let's take a minute to acknowledge the Anti-Violence Project. According to the AVP website, "AVP empowers lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and HIV-affected communities and allies to end all forms of violence through organizing and education, and supports survivors through counseling and advocacy."  
Also according to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs (NCAVP), Chanel is the eighth homicide of a transgender or gender non-conforming person of color in 2015. Anyone who lives in the United States can attest to the surge in violence among non-white persons, especially by law enforcement. Add into that violence against anyone active in the LGBT community, and we have a real problem here. Yes, others are killed of every ethnicity. But can you imagine just how much harder a person like Chanel has to work in life to get by, being an African-American Transgender person? Geez. Reports say that after moving to Philadelphia, Chanel lived in a youth shelter and crisis center, due to disagreements with her family. May she rest in peace.

There ya have it, guys. This week's popular news articles that were brought to my attention. Let me know if you all think this is a good idea. I will try and post more stories in the news next week Wednesday!! Happy reading!!

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

The Sex everywhere!!

Hey all!
I'm going to be making a new post tomorrow, but I wanted to make a quick post to let you all know about my Facebook page. I may not always be super diligent about making posts on here but I try to keep up more so on the Facebook page (it's much more convenient). So, if you stopping here to check stuff out, you should also hop on over to Facebook and give my page a 'like.' It'll be much easier to get up-to-date content that way. Also follow me on Twitter--@The_SexKittenK.

Thanks for looking!!


Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Interviews With Strangers: Nick

Hello, all! It's been awhile since I've done an interview. This year has been pretty busy! Anyways, let's get to it!

My point in doing these interviews is to show that everyone has their own relationships and that personal information and sex don't need to be so taboo. Everyone you know is (probably) having sex or has had it at some point. It's not some dirty awful thing. We all have a life under the surface of the public eye. So, who's life are we looking at this time? It's Nick! Nick is a 29-year-old bartender. He is currently single (pssst...ladies?). His longest relationship was four years, and it was a mutual breakup. Now that we know a little bit about him, here's the interview!!

So, Nick, are you totally straight? Or are you bi/bi-curious/gay? Have you ever had an interest and/or encounter in/with men?

I consider myself to be straight now, but there was a period in my life where I tried going out with a few guys to see how I felt about it. Turns out I am not. I have never engaged in any sexual activity, including a threesome, with another man.

Nice. That's pretty cool. Are you using any dating sites or hook up sites? Which ones? I had Tinder installed on my phone for about an hour. I found it to be very boring and since I don't really find myself to subscribe to 'hook up culture' I really haven't found a desire to use anything like it. I have met people through online dating and have had long distance relationships.

You're a bartender. Do you get a lot of female attention when you're behind the bar?

Yes I do. Absolutely.

Has anything ever come of that?

Once, and I consider it a mistake. I was drunk and feeling alone really. I feel like I hooked up with this woman because I was feeling down on myself. Also, she didn't really follow the NSA rule and is doing a good job of constantly hinting at me to hook up again.

That does suck. Happens to the best of us. Do you have any entertaining date stories?

I have been stood up a dozen times in the last year or so? Haha.

Damn! That's rough. Probably dodged some bullets there, though.

Do you have any big regrets from past relationships?
Yes, and no. I try to think that I have done a lot of things in life that are way worse than half of the nonsense that has gone on in my relationships. I would say however that I have two things that I would fix if I could go back in time and still learn from them.
One would be not handling my emotions the way I did when my first major girlfriend broke up with me. I kinda took it too hard and freaked out about it in a way that really sent me into a depression. I needed to grow up in that situation and I wasn't there in my mind. The other would be putting my work ahead of me before I actually realized that the girl I wanted to spend my life with was walking out of the door, I did a bad job of actually keeping my priorities in order and I think that I ended up dragging that woman along a path where she was expecting other things from me.
Excellent reflection. I think a lot of people have similar experiences after their first breakup, but it's important that we learn from it. Now, let's talk sex.
How many sexual partners have you had?
Seven partners.
What is your favorite sexual position?
What's your favorite part of the female body or the part you notice first?
Neck, hair, and eyes.
At what age did you lose your virginity?
Nineteen, to my first girlfriend.
Do you prefer a certain hair color/body type?
Red hair, with a body type that can put a little bit of a fight in the bedroom if things get rough. Not particularly picky but as long I am attracted.
Do you have any kinks/sexual fetishes?
I'm into light amounts of pain, not into blood but I do tend to draw blood when I bite.
'Biting's excellent. It's like kissing - only there is a winner.' (If anyone knows this reference, high-five!)
Haha, there is a winner! That is great.
Any fun sex stories? Have you ever had sex in public?
Fun sex story: I once had sex in every seat of my car in under an hour?

I had sex in a park one time. It was middle of the night and I had been kicked out of her parent's place.

I got road head while paying a toll in Illinois.
Those are fascinating, hahah.
Do you want to have kids?
Depends. I am not planning on having kids, but if I end up getting some girl pregnant and she wants to keep it I am guessing I am stepping up.
Well, I can't think of anything else, unless you've got anything to add?
Nothing to add but thanks!
Thanks for doing the interview!
Not a problem thanks for having me.

Well, there ya have it, folks. Your friendly neighborhood bartender really enjoys red-headed girls who can take a bit of biting (but I mean, who doesn't?). It's always fun to hear what other people have experienced and are into, sexually. If you enjoyed this interview, keep checking back for me. And contact me with any interest in being interviewed. You'll definitely want to read the next one--it will be with a woman. So get out there and make some stories for me!