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Bi Curious?

Meredith Chivers is a researcher at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health at the University of Toronto. Chivers did some research and put it in a documentary, Bi The Way, in 2008. What kind of research did she do? She put people in a room and showed them video clips. The video clips ranged from seeing basic naked bodies doing everyday things to pornographic displays. She then measured how their genitals reacted and how aroused they were. What's interesting is the results.

It turns out, straight women are not exactly 'straight.' The straight women that saw clips of naked men really didn't have any kind of arousal. However, if the women saw a clip featuring a naked woman, they became aroused. If it was a pornographic-type clip of men and women having sex, they became aroused. If they saw a clip of two women having sex, they became aroused. They also became aroused while viewing any kind of masturbatory clips. So if these are straight women, why are they getting so easily aroused at the sight of women engaging in either sexual acts with themselves or other women?

As Chivers says, "“Women physically don’t seem to differentiate between genders in their sex responses, at least heterosexual women don’t. For heterosexual women, gender didn’t matter. They responded to the level of activity.”

So what she's saying is that women aren't focused on the whole 'man' or 'woman' label. In public, simply seeing a person of the sex they are attracted to or not attracted to doesn't matter. But if suddenly either one of those genders becomes sexually involved, it is attractive and causes stimulation and increased blood flow to the sex organs. This is groundbreaking, in my opinion. This kind of says that people are neither gay or straight--they are just turned on by whatever they're turned on by. Of course, this is not all women. This was a study of a number of women, not all women in the world. There will absolutely be straight women who are completely disgusted by the thought of being with another woman. But lots of women are not turned off by that thought.

My 'study' wasn't exactly scientific, but I did survey a number of straight women about their sexual activity with other women. Most all of them said they had at least kissed another girl, but identified primarily as straight. But even the ones that identified as straight and dated only men admitted to being curious about girls. Many of them said their kisses with the same sex happened due to a drunken night. But is the alcohol the only thing to blame? Doubtful. Women's bodies are naturally beautiful and when you're drunk, everything seems to look good. Our instincts are looking for sex and we are able to pick out the beauty of a women as much as men seem to be able to do, and we'll take it, despite the fact that we might think of ourselves as single.

Another interesting thing about the study is the scale of it. Straight men really only responded sexually to sex between men and women or solo women. Gay men really only responded to men and men and solo men. Lesbians responded to women and women and solo women. But straight women pretty much responded to everything, even sex between animals!!!!

Does this mean that women are more interested in other women than men when it comes to sex? Not necessarily. Are people who are turned on by feet only interested in relationships with feet? No, and that doesn't make sense. It's simply a turn-on. Women are far more in-tuned to their sexual appetite than society may have once thought. Women are turned on by the act of sex, not necessarily the person/animal involved in said sex. Turns out, women are just kinky as hell. Now all you guys (and maybe girls) out there that have been wondering if your girl would be interested in ___(insert random kink/position here)___, go ahead and ask her. Or better yet, show her a video.



Check out the article in NY Times: New York Times 'What Women Want (Maybe).'

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  1. I'm not surprised, maybe that's why men in late centuries have been trying to hard to keep the woman's sexual identity under lock and key for so long. I definitely relate to that, all of that, above :P

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