Friday, June 22, 2012

Sexual Bucket List

What is a bucket list? It's a list of all the things a person wants to do before they die. Go to Paris, see the Great Wall of China, go skydiving, get wasted in Vegas, swim with sharks, etc. Those are all great things to aspire to, but let's consider other facets of human life--Sex. Just like everything else, there are countless things to experience sexually. But a lot of times, like the rest of life, we get comfortable in a routine. Sex on Tuesday nights after 9 pm when the kids are in bed, he takes off your bra and you give him a blowjob for about 2 minutes before engaging in 5 minutes of woman-on-top sex can get pretty comfortable. But why stay comfortable when you can have so much more fun? In a culture that revolves around sex, we are still brought up to be so close-minded about so many things. Experimenting sexually doesn't make you a freak or a slut. Being honest, open and communicative with a partner will make this the easiest. And just because you are in a stable, long-term relationship doesn't mean that you can't change things up, or that you or your partner don't have things you are interested in and never talked about. The act of feeling pleasure is a really personal and intimate thing, and it can be really difficult to open up and discuss what you like with someone else, no matter how close you are with that person. But, if you end up getting to feel pleasure with someone you love (or don't) and achieving something you've always wanted to, it will be worth it. Now, this list is only a part of the sexual world. There are seriously endless amounts of things you can do sexually. So, put down the Cosmo and discover a world of actual exciting things, and try them before it's too late!

Note: List is not in any particular order

Sexual Bucket List

1. Threesome.
Who doesn't dream of this someday? Two women and one man is always the most popular.

2. 'Devil's' Threesome.
Two men and one woman. Not as easy to find men willing to try this one.

3. Sex (or other sexually-related activity) with someone of the same sex.
Wondering what someone of the same sex is like is human nature. Go for it. It might be fun.

4. Oral Sex.
A lot of people don't branch out from the oh-so-typical penis-in-vagina penetration. If you haven't given or received oral sex, this needs to be on the top of your list.

5. Anal Sex.
Anal sex is still pretty taboo, but it's becoming more popular everyday. I also think  a lot of people enjoy it, but don't talk about it for fear of being judged.

6. Frottage
Frottage is the act of rubbing against each other, without having sex. Like grinding. Especially for older couples, for whom sex happens more and more easily and earlier on in relationships, frottage can be exciting. Even if it's just once, have a night where you and your partner make out like crazy, rubbing up against each other and getting really excited, and don't end up having sex. Channel your inner innocent teenage first relationship nerves and excitement.

7. Masturbate
Surprisingly enough, a lot of people have never touched themselves. No one will understand how to pleasure you the way you do. Learn what you like, and you will be better off telling someone what you like and where you like it.

8. Vibrators
This goes for men and women. Using a vibrator can spice up any sex life, when you are in a relationship or single. Just have fun with it.

9. Go to a porn store
Again, this is one that you might think a lot of people already do. But if you've never been to one, go check it out. You owe it to yourself to see what's out there to play with. If going to one makes you uncomfortable, check out websites like Adam&Eve, Babeland, or Pure Romance.

10. Watch Porn
It's not as disgusting and perverted as some try to make it out to be. There are tasteful porn sites and videos. If you're not into homemade videos or raunchy, graphic online clips, check out X-Art, which has very good camera work, attractive performers, and is done in a tasteful, sexy way.

11. Read (and/or write) erotica
You can do this by yourself, with a partner, or out-loud with a partner. Lots of people find the written word to be a bigger turn on than watching an erotic scene. Try it out, it's fun.

12. Have sex in public
Be careful with this one. The thought of getting caught is exhilarating, and can be a huge turn-on. Just make sure to not harm anyone or make anyone uncomfortable, and remember that depending on where you do it, getting caught can mean getting in trouble with the law.

13. Film yourself having sex
Another one to be careful with. Even just setting up a camera to give the idea of being filmed works here. Have set rules with your partner about what will be filmed, when, and how long/where you will keep the footage. Never use footage against someone.

14. Have phone sex (or sext, nowadays).
Again, words can be sexier than actions sometimes. If you're ever in a position where you're ready to go but aren't able to, call up your partner or willing volunteer, and explain everything you'd do to them in explicit detail. Moaning and sighing is also allowed.

15. Have Period Sex.
Lots of girls don't like to have sex on their period and let's face it--it makes sense. You can feel bloated and unattractive and dirty. But the blood and fluids act as natural lubricants, your chances of getting pregnant are at their lowest, and orgasms can help those pesky cramps go away.

16. Have Drunk/High Sex
Again: BE CAREFUL. I don't mean have wasted-I'm-blacking-out-and-won't-remember-this-in-the-morning sex. I mean, have a few drinks and when you're both feeling good, let those inhibitions down and let loose. It will feel great once you're already relaxed and feeling alright. Remember legal implications as well, people!

17. Have a quickie
 Only have 15 mins. for your lunch break on a busy day? Go have a quickie in your car or at home. Knowing you don't have much time and might get in trouble if you're late will rev up your libido. Plus, this is the one time he won't apologize for not lasting long. :P.

18. Have an Orgy
Find a bunch of people (or use friends!) and just get together and all have fun. Make sure everyone is open and communicating with each other first! Setting rules and boundaries beforehand will make this go smoothly.

19. Roleplay
Try anything--teacher and student, librarian and reader, firefighter and damsel in distress, plumber and lonely housewife, cheating lovers, etc. I could go on all day.

20. Try BDSM
This one entails so much. Not everyone is into pain, and if you aren't, try tying your partner up, blindfolding each other, or having restraints. If you like pain, try whips, floggers, clamps, or e-stim.

21. Have car sex
This one is similar to, but not quite the same, as public sex. Drive out somewhere that you might or might not be seen, and go at it like teenagers.

22. Have shower sex
Take the time to really appreciate each other's bodies. Rub it all down, touch it all slowly and intimately, and then ravage it against the tiles.

23. Try different lubes and condoms.
There's new lubes coming out all the time. Warming ones, increased sensation ones. Try them all out, find out what you like.

24. Have sex underwater
This one can be difficult to do. Make sure you are using proper protection and that it will work underwater. You can be in a pool, whirlpool, or regular tub. Avoid hot tubs, though. They scream infection.

25. Use Costumes
Costumes can be bought anywhere. Try a schoolgirl, furry, or a sexy maid.

26. Dominate
Allow yourself to take control of the situation. Tell your partner that you are going to take care of them, and that they need to do nothing but lie back and take it.

27. Be a submissive
Allow your partner to be the dominant. Lay back and receive effortless pleasure!

28. Use a strap-on
This is one that might take some convincing. But it could be fun to act like the man for once.

29. Go to a motel
Even if you have your own place or car, one day, just head to a motel for a couple hours.

30. Have sex with a stranger
This one is something that some people may want to do, so don't knock it. Of course, be safe. I can't stress that enough.

31. Get a massage with a happy ending
Feel free to go to an establishment, but a partner will probably be more than willing to help you out here.

32. Try different positions
You may love missionary or cowgirl. But try doggie style and reverse cowgirl. Go online and google sex positions, pick a random one, and try it.

33. Have sex up against a wall
What's more primal than being overcome with lust and being pushed up a wall/pushing someone up a wall and having your way with them?

34. Women--have an internal orgasm.
Lots of women are only able to come from clitoral stimulation. Attempt to find your g-spot (just a few inches in, at the top. Use a come-here motion to stimulate it) and give yourself an internal orgasm

35. Women--teach yourself to ejaculate.
Women can come like men, though not quite the same. Some women are able to squirt large amounts of liquids just like men can, and other just drip water. When you get the sensation that you're going to pee--go with it. You're most likely not going to.

36. Go to a strip club
Just for the experience. See what the girls/guys can do.

37. Give (and get!) a lap dance
Lap dances are sexy in many ways. Get one, then give one with your new-found knowledge.

38. Take boudoir pictures
Wear your sexiest clothing and take sexy pictures, with a professional or with your friends/partner.

39. Have sex while at someone else's house
Just be respectful and don't yell. Also, clean the sheets after yourself!

40. Have make-up sex
After fighting (preferably about something very minor), make up for it by having sex. Angry sex is always a great idea.

41. Have sex with someone while someone else watches, and vice versa.
Not much to say about this one. Enjoy it.

42. Get a sexual piercing.
Pierce your genitals, nipples, lips or tongue. They have vibrating tongue rings, just saying.

43. Swing
Switch partners with another couple. Communication is key, and make sure everyone is comfortable with the situation and each other.

44. Manual Stimulation
Never underestimate the power of a good handjob, even after years of sex. Women, get fingered.

45. Fantasize about someone else during sex.
It's not hurting anyone.

46. Have sex with your clothes/panties on.
Pull them aside and have fun.

47. Have sex without a condom
I'm not saying have unprotected sex. When you are in a long-term relationship, on birth control, and you're both tested and comfortable, try it.

48. Try to finish at the same time
This is not as common as people think it is. Try to pace yourselves to finish together.

49. Have sex on an airplane.
Looking around online, this seems to be a popular one. Join the mile high club...

50. Play with hot wax
Be careful and know your/your partner's limits.

51. Have sex more than once in one day.
I think most people have done this, but have sex two, three, four, etc. times.

52. Go to a glory hole.
No explanation here, either.

53. Go to a peepshow.
Watch the girls dance around. You can't touch.

54. Have a one-night stand
Pretty much like the stranger one, but have sex with someone (even if you know them) once, and then never again.

55. Sex with a celebrity
If you could ever get so lucky...

56. Learn to orgasm without any touching
It can be done.

57. Experience a full-body orgasm.
It will feel amazing.

58. Have multiple orgasms.
If you can handle it ;).

59. Give/get a foot job

60. Give/get a hand job with her boobs (boob job sounded wrong).

61. Give/get an ass job

62. Be loud
If you're a quiet person, try and be loud once or twice. It can be pretty damn sexy.

63. Have sex in the middle of the night
Wake up in the middle of the night and can't fall back asleep? Surprise your partner with some sexual activity.

64. Women-Have pregnant sex.
The baby will not know what you're doing.

65. Have post-op sex with a transgender person.
This one is self-explanatory.

66. Fisting.
Ouch. But yes?

These are only 66 things I could think of/find online. People are eclectic in their sexual tastes. You can try any variation of any of these things, and tons more. Again, be safe, open, respectful and honest with all of these and more. And If you have more to contribute, comment, please! :).

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  1. Looking for a girl for a 3 way ;)

  2. This is a great list :) I just might print it out. Thank you!

  3. This list is almost as big as my johnson....

  4. These comments are wonderful. Mostly the last one. So, last commenter, this one is for you.

    First one, looking for a girl? Where are you located? Try places like craigslist or fetlife!

  5. I love the list, I have always thought about a girl using a strapon on me! Would love to make a girl squirt too!