The Sex Kitten

Welcome to my first post of 2019, readers! It's been quite awhile since I've posted, but I won't bore you with all of the reasons why. Instead, I will jump right into my newest product review--and yes, it is yet another Satisfyer product! In case you are new to my blog, Satisfyer is my favorite toy company. (You can read my previous reviews here  and here .) They really care about their customers and make awesome, quality toys. They listen to what the people want and are constantly coming out with new and improved vibrators for all genders, individuals, and couples. Their most recent line is their Partner Multifun toys, and they are what I am going to be telling you about today.  Partner Multifun 2 Partner Multifun 1 Before receiving these products, I'd never had a toy that was specifically catered towards couples. Sure, vibrators can be used with partners, but are generally targeted for individual play. These new Multifun vibrators are intende...

I realized that I never use this in a way to just talk. And I really like to talk. I usually have a topic and then write about it or push my Literotica stories. But, I think I want to talk about my blog as a whole and how I feel about continuing on in this field. I never try to look sexy, because this is what happens when I do.  When people want to be a hairdresser, they cut their friend's hair. When they want to be a teacher, they tutor kids. When they want to be a chef, they cook yummy food all the time. So, what does someone who wants to  be a sex therapist do? Not what you'd think. I have a lot of people assume it means I just want to have sex all the time. I mean, sex is great. But that's not what I'm trying to do. Honestly, I find it all fascinating. The way we can take one glance at someone and want to jump their bones, or how two people can mutually feel that. Think about it--attraction is fucking fascinating! And if you've ever been with someone phys...

What is a bucket list? It's a list of all the things a person wants to do before they die. Go to Paris, see the Great Wall of China, go skydiving, get wasted in Vegas, swim with sharks, etc. Those are all great things to aspire to, but let's consider other facets of human life--Sex. Just like everything else, there are countless things to experience sexually. But a lot of times, like the rest of life, we get comfortable in a routine. Sex on Tuesday nights after 9 pm when the kids are in bed, he takes off your bra and you give him a blowjob for about 2 minutes before engaging in 5 minutes of woman-on-top sex can get pretty comfortable. But why stay comfortable when you can have so much more fun? In a culture that revolves around sex, we are still brought up to be so close-minded about so many things. Experimenting sexually doesn't make you a freak or a slut. Being honest, open and communicative with a partner will make this the easiest. And just because you are in a stable, ...

As humans, we have some basic drives. One of these is a sex drive. It's a well-known 'fact' that men have higher sex drives than women. But is that true?? Turns out, yes. Men do tend to crave sex more, and not surprisingly, they will take it more casually, often, and without emotional attachment. A psychologist from Florida State University even conducted a study that showed that men get aroused more randomly throughout the day, whereas for women, a situation has to be just right for her to become turned-on. --About 66% of men say they masturbate (compared with 40% of women). This has gotta be wrong, I think that number is too low. --Men seem to have specific expectations for the things that turn them on, whereas women are more difficult to figure out (as usual). When showed pornographic videos to gauge arousal, straight men were aroused by straight porn, gay men by gay porn, lesbians by lesbian porn, but straight women seemed to be aroused by all of it!!! --Church...

A couple in Nice, France got divorced , and the woman cited her reasoning as being lack of sex in their 21 years of matrimonial 'bliss.' The husband said he was tired and had health problems, therefore not wanting to engage in sex. The judge in their divorce proceedings obviously didn't think this was a legitimate reason--he fined the now ex-husband 8,500 pounds (over $13, 600!!). The judge claims that marriage binds you to your spouse physically and by abstaining from sex, you are not fully involved in your marriage. Apparently there's a French civil code and in article 215 of that, it states that married couples have to have a "shared communal life." Even the Bible says in Ephesians 5:31 -' 31 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."' But is it fair to fine a man for abstaining?! He doesn't want it The woman is getting her divorce, and it's not like the ...

This is less of an educational post and more of an explanation/opinion post. A friend of mine sent me a link to this article from FoxNews about surrogate sex partners. What is it? Well, basically, when a person is in therapy for sexual/intimacy problems, a secondary form of therapy could be to have a surrogate to 'teach' the patient how to become intimate with someone else and how to have sex in a healthy way. This means a woman can learn how to relax and have an orgasm, a man can try and help his erectile dysfunction, and someone who is socially inept can learn how to be physical with someone. It's not like these people go in and just have sex with someone. These surrogates are employed by the IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association). It is a non-profit organization and it is $1,500 for the training. I'm assuming these people have background checks and STD testings. Therapists and surrogates work together to fully help the client. The therapist holds ...

On request, I am posting an entry about piercings!!! Of course, there are the obvious piercings, like ear, nose, eyebrow, cartilage and other facial&bodily piercings. But not as well known or widely accepted are genital/sexual piercings. So I've compiled a list of all the sexual piercings I could find, along with a picture. Please be advised that some of the pictures are graphic, and if you do not wish to see a picture of genitals and other body parts with piercings, please do not scroll down. :) Unisex Lip Lip-- Lip piercings can be great for oral, creating an extra sensation when rubbing against your partner. They are also good for kissing, as it can be something else to play with. Tongue Tongue-- Tongue piercings are also good for play during kissing, and also great for oral. There are vibrating tongue rings that can be bought for the purpose of oral. Nipple-- Nipple piercings are bars going through the nipple. When touched, they can send waves of pleas...

"My new boyfriend has a smaller penis. How can I make sex more enjoyable?" I think the first thing that's important here is how to define 'sex.' Remember that not all sex has to be vaginal intercourse. If you don't feel as much pleasure vaginally, try doing more oral, manual, or mutual masturbation. Also, it's not how big it is, it's how you use it. Focus on touching and stimulating every part of each others bodies--the sex doesn't have to be the biggest part. But there are positions that can make a guy seem long and penetrate deeper. Doggie Style-- Doggie style tends to rub against women's g-spots, since it is only a few inches in on the upper part of the vaginal canal. Because of the position (woman on all fours, head down, man in from behind), the penis will feel like it is penetrating quite deep. 'Rabbit Ears'-- Have the woman lay on her back with her legs bent up towards her head and enter from the front. The angle at which t...

Men, you should be happy. Most of the time no man will ever have to wonder this question, yet tons of women ask it every day. So for all you women out there wondering if you did, here's some hints. And if you haven't, practice makes perfect. You need to keep trying. Because sex might feel good in general, but not much beats a good orgasm. If you have said, "I don't know if I've ever had an orgasm," then you probably haven't. It's not really the kind of thing that just happens when you weren't paying attention. Before orgasm, your body starts tensing up. It will feel like every part of you is tightening. The biggest thing you need to do at this moment is let go. It may be hard to do that, and it tends to be even harder during g-spot stimulation as opposed to clitoral stimulation. This is because the sensations of the g-spot can feel like you have to urinate. You will not pee. And if you end up releasing a bunch of fluid, it is ejaculation, NOT pee...

Ever wanted a threesome? Of course you have. Every straight man wants a three some with two girls (with one girl and one guy it is commonly referred to as 'the devil's threesome'). Most straight girls would probably prefer two guys (but most straight guys are not into this). Threesomes are touchy. It's all about attention, pleasure and feelings. A lot of hesitancy about them in relationships is due to jealousy. Sex is an intimate thing, and seeing the one you love being that intimate and pleasured by someone else can hurt. But if you're going to have a threesome, you need to detach yourself from these kinds of feelings and remind yourself that it's purely about the physical act--it doesn't mean anything more. Once you decide on the person, things can get started. Set ground rules. Maybe you as a couple are the only two that can have vaginal intercourse, but the third can engage in oral or manual sex. Communication is key. It is important to check in on eve...

Most of us know how things go when getting intimate. But did you know there's actually a scientific order to what's going on in our bodies, enough so that we can classify each stage of it? Masters & Johnson (William and Virginia) came up with the first three stages of excitement, plateau and orgasm. According to wikipedia , Masters hired Johnson to help him in a study about human sexuality (he later left his wife for Johnson, but it didn't last. They divorced in 1992). Helen Singer Kaplan added a fourth stage to their diagram--the resolution stage. This was big because sexual dysfunction is classified in the 4th edition of the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual) based on this diagram--it is a dysfunction if it interrupts any stage. What are the stages? Step 1: Excitement This is when you start to get horny (I hate that word, just putting it out there). The 'side effects' are quite obvious. For women, the vaginal lips swell and become slightly engorged...

In 1946, Disney (with help from Kimberley-Clark by Kotex) put out a short 10-minute film entitled, 'The Story of Menstruation.' It was a little explanation about what a period is, what to expect when you're on it, and overall how to be a healthy woman. Considering the fact that it was made 65 years ago, the information is all basically the same. And who knew that Kotex has been around that long?! At one part, the narrator says that we women can do practically everything we normally do when on our period, and it shows a clip of a cartoon girl dancing with a cartoon boy. They are twirling around and the narrator says, "Oh, now now, we said practically everything." I'm not sure what exactly she meant, but to me I thought she was referring to sexual activity. Any ideas of what she meant, if you think I was off base? To be clear, sexual activity and even intercourse itself is totally fine during your period, just be safe and clean. Orgasms have been shown to red...

Alfred Kinsey Alfred Kinsey was a psychologist and biologist who published studies in human sexuality. In 1947, he founded his Institute for Sex Research, where he and his colleagues interviewed thousands and thousands of people about their sex lives, which Kinsey then published in two books-- Sexual Behavior in the Human Male and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female , otherwise known as the 'Kinsey Report.' His reports covered all kinds of things, like orgasm, masturbation, fantasies, foreplay, extramarital sex, homosexuality, and more. Unfortunately, he died young at the age of 62 in 1956. One article points out that while Kinsey's research was ground-breaking and interesting, it was probably flawed. He would meet his participants anywhere he could, and people would come to him to volunteer for his tests. This means the people that volunteered were probably not shy about sex and probably had very outgoing sex lives, which could skew his information. Despite any...

This is a shorter post, because there's not a ton to say about it. What is make-up sex and does it work? Turn this... Make-up sex is having sex during or after a fight with your partner, in order to 'fix' the problem. When you're in a heated situation, the brain releases adrenaline and dopamine. Adrenaline, as most people know, gives you energy and gets you hyped up, and dopamine is the feel-good chemical. Dopamine is released when we are very happy or enjoying something. So the fact that these two are released during a fight can be responsible for making the blood rush downwards. But why would you want to have sex when you're angry? Well, an article in PsychologyToday says that pain and pleasure are very closely related. This is because of those chemicals that are released. This is also the reason that people abuse drugs. Though the pain of the drug sucks, it still gives them that feel-good feeling mentally. The most interesting theory is the one of being tr...

An old friend of mine from high school and I were talking the other day, and she brought up the topic of sex within Christianity. This got me thinking about sex and how it relates to religion. Considering the fact that roughly 33% of the world's population is Christian, it deserves a look at how the people of the religion view sex. Sex in the Bible: (I am going to be basing this purely off The New Testament). Let's start with premarital sex. Christians, especially the older ones, are always preaching against pre-marital sex. But where in the Bible does it say this? Matthew 5:28: But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. But the definition of Adultery is 'voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.'  So, yes, premarital sex would imply that a person is having sex with someone who is not their legal spouse but they are not necessarily c...

  I've had a lot of suggestions to write about this. Why? Probably because most women are dying to know they're normal. And it's understandable. Googling anything about female orgasms, female ejaculations, female g-spots, or information about the vagina brings up very few reliable sources. Pleasure, in our society, falls so heavily on the men. But it's understandable, they're pretty easy to please. But the sad fact is that about 75% of women don't orgasm during intercourse. What's even more sad is that 10-15% don't orgasm ever. This is in contrast to 98% of men who orgasm every time. What the hell is up with that?!  Well, if you're one of the women that can orgasm in every conceivable way except during sex--don't fret!! It's totally common. The g-spot is difficult to stimulate during sex, and if yours isn't being stimulated, make sure the clit gets attention! A clitoral orgasm, whether brought on by friction during sex or fingers, is ...