Female Orgasm, The G-Spot, and Ejaculation

 I've had a lot of suggestions to write about this. Why? Probably because most women are dying to know they're normal. And it's understandable. Googling anything about female orgasms, female ejaculations, female g-spots, or information about the vagina brings up very few reliable sources. Pleasure, in our society, falls so heavily on the men. But it's understandable, they're pretty easy to please. But the sad fact is that about 75% of women don't orgasm during intercourse. What's even more sad is that 10-15% don't orgasm ever. This is in contrast to 98% of men who orgasm every time. What the hell is up with that?! 

Well, if you're one of the women that can orgasm in every conceivable way except during sex--don't fret!! It's totally common. The g-spot is difficult to stimulate during sex, and if yours isn't being stimulated, make sure the clit gets attention! A clitoral orgasm, whether brought on by friction during sex or fingers, is still an orgasm.
Women, the thought of it may embarrass you, but touch yourself!!! A man (or woman) will never be able to satisfy you if you can't do it yourself. Learn what feels good and what gets you off, that way you can tell your partner where and what feels good. Communication really is key--don't be afraid to say, "Right there!" or "To the right just a little bit!" or even, "harder!" For most women, the location of the pleasure moves as stimulation continues, and it also requires a little more pressure as well. Be careful though, lots of women can't handle direct stimulation of their clitoris.

 Now, the part most women are excited for: The G-Spot. To everyone--YES it is REAL. And yes, every woman has one. Not every woman experience great pleasure from theirs, however. The G-spot in women is actually pretty much the same as the one in men. It is sometimes referred to as the 'female prostate' (or the Skene's Gland). It is a soft, spongy gland that produces fluid. This fluid IS NOT urine. Some women are able to orgasm through stimulation of the g-spot and not ejaculate (or 'squirt'), and others can orgasm through clitoral stimulation alone and achieve ejaculation. If you're a woman who wants to achieve any sort of orgasm, my first suggestion is to research your own anatomy.

Surprisingly, lots of women don't know where 'things are down there.' Look at where the clitoris and urethra are. It's like a triangle of pleasure. It's all connected inside. When stimulated from inside or outside, the inner vagina swells, along with the 'prostate.' The prostate can make a clear fluid, much like the fluids a man makes (without the sperm, obviously). When stimulated, you will probably feel like you have to pee. Let me say this loud and clear--YOU WILL NOT PEE. You won't. It only feels like it because the 'prostate' is so close to your bladder and it comes out in a similar spot your urine would. If you feel this sensation, relax your muscles. You may not necessarily ejaculate, but you could orgasm. Working on Kegels (a clenching-type exercise of the inner pelvic muscles) is a good way to learn how to control your muscles, making it easier for you to release them when the time comes.

'Female Prostate.'

The vagina is only about 3-4 inches long (ladies, remind your guy's of this so they can stop bitching about their 'size'). To find your g-spot, insert your finger into the vagina with the nail facing down (and don't forget to clip them. Microscopic tears are not only painful and can cause burning from fluids, they can also become infected, especially if fingers aren't clean), and press upwards. Just an inch or two in, you will feel a large lump. Move up a little bit more and press on the lump. It should feel soft and squishy, and have the texture of a sponge. Pushing up and out on this spot, in a 'come here'-like motion fast and consistent, will likely cause orgasm.

The orgasm may not happen right away. It might take awhile, and even if you do get that internal orgasm, it might not be as great for you and you might not come. Also keep in mind that some women do not find this spot to be any pleasure to be touched. It doesn't make you weird--it's completely normal. It's a pocket of nerves and tissue, just like your breasts or anus, and not everyone likes those places to be touched intimately, do they? Just learn yourself, learn what you like, and learn how to communicate. Just like everything else, practice makes perfect. And who says constant practice can't be fun?

 Here is a link to a blog of a woman who set out to learn how to squirt: I Did It for Science: Female Ejaculation.
Aaaaand another blog: The Slut, Jezebel: Shejaculation: Or How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love The Gush.








Sources:

Rev. Jen Miller. I Did It for Science: Experiment: Female Ejaculation
Susan Donaldson James. Sex Study Says Female Orgasm Eludes Majority of Women.
Female Sexual Anatomy and Function.
Wikipedia.G-Spot.

Female Ejaculation Video: YouPorn. Guy Makes This Girl Squirt!